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1.  Ask for what you want. There is no need to compromise on what you need and want sexually. Depending upon how important those needs are (for example receiving oral sex from him), if he can't or won't help you be fulfilled sexually in the ways you desire, then move on to find a new partner.

2.  I would assume you have wounded him with any offhand comments about his penis size. Men are typically super sensitive to any such remarks, and some men find it impossible to forget or forgive. Go to any lengths to help him feel good about his penis (letting him know how much you love, admire and adore it—for example by giving him good head), to overcome any feelings of inadequacy, and performance anxiety (almost certainly this is why he might be hesitant to have sexual intercourse with you). But you must be very tactful and considerate of any sensitivity he already has and just bringing it up again could actually make things worse. So be very respectful and creative in how you do try to repair any damage to his masculine self esteem he may already have perceived.

3.  By all means please him orally if you can bring yourself to enjoy it. Learning to enjoy giving him oral sex is probably the single most important thing you can do to salvage and repair the current situation.

4.  Ignoring this and hoping it will just go away is the worst thing you could do; definitely not recommended as a viable strategy for you to follow.

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Your first experience of sexual intercourse is a major event in life. We will not discuss the obvious need to protect yourselves from the possibility of pregnancy; rather we assume you will do that and you can find out more about how in many different places on the Internet.

Consider that lovemaking to include sexual intercourse is at once, physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual. The danger is that you only pay attention to the physical aspect as if that were all there was to it. But, because you are asking this question I am confident you will not do that.

The physical aspect is irresistibly immediate and dominant in your attention with no effort on your part at all. Be gentle with each other. Allow for the fact that you will both almost certainly feel shy, awkward and embarrassed. Laugh about the experience, before during and after, but NEVER make fun of each other; your egos will not likely stand up to such seemingly disrespectful behavior. But don’t make it into something grave and heavy, in spite of the fact that it is profound, accompanied by intense feelings, and fraught with danger.

From your question I’m assuming you love each other. Be sure to bring that love into the experience from beginning to end. You can’t tell each other too many times how much you mean to each other. For the male, it is particularly important to remind him, that as soon as he ejaculates he will feel like rolling over and going to sleep, or immediately jumping up to do something else. Doing so would be a big mistake. Take at least as much time talking about how much you love each other and how you plan to spend the rest of your lives together after the sexual intercourse ends as you did building up to the event.

Focus on giving and receiving pleasure, not having any goal of getting to orgasm, or “making it happen” for each other. Try simply to be fully present with each other from moment to moment. The more the experience can be one of giving to each other, rather than taking something, or getting something, the better the experience will be. On the other hand, if you cannot receive each other’s loving attention, the one giving will be deprived of knowing someone accepts their love. Both must give and receive to make the experience fulfilling and complete.

Go very slowly; surely you will not be in a hurry to end this marvelous exploration of each other! No, go much slower than that, even slower still.

Know it takes the young lady much longer to come to full arousal, while the man may be very quick to finish with an ejaculation that happens in just an instant. But it is likely that he will recover his erection quickly and with a repeat performance is likely to last much longer than the first time.
 
Open to the possibility that you may awaken your higher consciousness and touch the realm of God and Godess. Don’t be frightened by this, it is your birthright to remember who you really are, much much more than physical bodies. This is the spiritual dimension of the experience.

Be kind, be gentle, be slow, be fully present, be real, be honest, be emotionally transparent, be vulnerable, be creative.

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Women have a great deal of erectile tissue in their genitals (as much as men in fact, but most of it is inside). During lovemaking all this tissue becomes engorged with blood and swells. Externally the clitoris engorged and you may also notice changes in your inner and outer labia. Inside, the vaginal canal thickens and engorges and the vagina expands, especially if you are highly aroused.

The vagina can also become swollen after sex, particularly if you are making love for a long time and are quite vigorous during all kinds of vaginal penetration. It's like rubbing any part of your body for a long time, there will be a reaction. Make sure you are well lubricated. This helps cut down some of the friction that can cause irritation.

If the swelling and stinging when you pee only last a little while then there shouldn't be much cause for concern. If they persist (last more than a day) you might want to check with your doctor to make sure you don't have some sort of infection.

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Yes indeed it is sex, not just sex, but sexual intercourse. Whenever the penis enters the vagina, no matter how briefly, that's intercourse.

 Is there any problem if male's organ only touches without entering to the vagina?

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How can I reassure my boyfriend that I was a virgin if I did not bleed with our first experience of sexual intercourse? 

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Not every woman bleeds the first time she has intercourse. In fact, many don’t. There are lots of ways the hymen (the “skin cover” or very thin membrane that partially covers the opening to the vagina) can be stretched or broken—everything from using a tampon for menstrual periods, to penetration with fingers during foreplay, to sports activities or vigorous exercise.

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"How can I know that she is totally satisfied with our sexual intercourse? I need some physical indicators."

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First of all, to really enjoy and be totally satisfied with intercourse, your lover needs to be thoroughly ready for it. That means it's important to spend lots of time kissing and caressing her, telling her how wonderful and beautiful she is, and exciting and pleasing her all over her body before there's any penetration. You might manually or orally stimulate her clitoris to bring her to orgasm or very close to it before you slip your penis into her vagina.

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Kama Sutra Sexual Intercourse Positions - Sitting

The classic Tantric lovemaking position is the YabYum (father / mother; yin / yang) position. We sometimes refer to it as the yum-yum position. Use it for moving and exchanging sexual energy when you are at a peak of sexual arousal and want to ride the wave of bliss rather than to continue building more hot sexual energy or end the lovemaking with the man ejaculating.

“YabYum” (variation – classic lotus)

The man sits cross-legged, in the lotus position, with his partner on top of his lap. You may support his thighs and back with pillows. When you are ready to resume more active lovemaking, you can easily roll from this position into man or woman on top or face-to-face on your sides while still maintaining your genital connection.

Excerpted from our Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions eBook.

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Woman on Top Variation – “Slipslide”

“As her hips begin to churn, her head, flung back, bobs ever faster; she scratches, pummels you with small fists, fastens her teeth in your neck, doing unto you what you've often done unto her.”
Love Teachings of Kama Sutra, by Vatsyayana, translated by Indra Sinha

 
The lovers have moved quickly in a swoon of uncontrollable passion joining their flesh together in the dance of love. Not having taken even enough time to disrobe completely, they ravish each other’s eager bodies. The lady overwhelmed with her lusty desire, comes instantly with the first penetration and goes on to build from one amazing orgasmic rush, each more intense than the last, until she falls forward, exhausted, but with her consciousness flying free of any limitations of the physical body. From this vantage point her soul essence merges with that of her lover, transcending any boundaries that formerly separated them.

This material is excerted from our Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions eBook, by Al Link and Pala Copeland

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Woman on Top

  “Crouching Tigress” (variation – “Grasshopper”)

 “Sitting erect, grip your lover's waist and pull her on to you, your loins continuously leaping together with a sound like the flapping of elephants' ears.”
Love Teachings of Kama Sutra, by Vatsyayana, translated by Indra Sinha

 
The outline of the lovers in this position resembles the shape of a grasshopper. Use it most effectively when you have built to an intense energy charge and wish to come together, allowing the joyful experience of mutual orgasm. The man may or may not ejaculate, as is his desire, if he has learned the mastery necessary to separate his orgasm from ejaculation.

This material is excerted from our Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions eBook, by Al Link and Pala Copeland

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