Sexual Fire Breath

The sexual fire breath is one of the best exercises, especially with a partner (but you can also do it alone), for rapidly building a hot sexual charge and moving it up through your body, helping to open all of your chakra centers. In the sexual fire breath you use a combination of sound, pelvic rocking, PC (pubococcygeous) muscle squeezes, deep abdominal breathing, visualization and hand movements.

The sexual fire breath is one of the meditations on Pala Copeland’s CD, Apertio: Tantra Energy Meditations, with lyrics and voice by Pala Copeland, and music by Jeff Davies. Use the sexual fire breath on your own to open yourself to your full exquisite sexual potential. Do it as a charger-upper before making love. Do it during lovemaking as you are being manually or orally stimulated. Do it during intercourse, but be very observant and ready to stop in a flash in the early learning stages or the man may go beyond his point of no return to ejaculate before you are both ready to end the lovemaking. If “energy” is very subtle for you and you don’t usually feel it, try this exercise. Most report really feeling something the very first time they do the sexual fire breath.

Sexual Fire Breath

• Lie on your back. Feet flat on the floor/bed. Knees bent. Legs comfortably apart. Hands at your sides, palms up. Eyes closed.
• Begin to breathe slowly and deeply into your belly.
• Focus your attention on your genitals and visualize drawing breath in and out through them.
• When you have a comfortable breathing rhythm established, begin to rock your pelvis, tilting it up toward the sky. Use your feet to slightly push off the floor so that you are not using your abdominal muscles to rock and they can remain loose and open.
• Inhale as you rock back. Exhale as you rock forward. (Note: some bodies want to do it the opposite way – listen to yours and go with what feels right).
• Make sound as you exhale – AAAAAHHHH. (This is the most difficult part for many people but it helps enormously, sound carries the energy).
• When you are in a comfortable rhythm, add PC Pumping. Tighten your PC muscles as you rock back. Relax them as you rock forward. (Note: your body might want to do it the opposite way, let it.).
• Begin to visualize your sexual energy as a great ball of golden fire in your genitals. As you rock, breathe and pump draw the golden fireball up through your chakra centers, one chakra at a time.
• Send the energy out through your crown chakra into the universe. Do not leave it to build up in your head. If you are making love with a partner, you can also pass the energy to him through your eyes, your kiss, your breath.
• Pass your hands in flowing motions up your body to help with the energy movement.
• Breathe more rapidly to move the energy higher within your body, allowing yourself to open into its flow.
• When you reach a high edge of energetic arousal you can maintain this level by deepening and slowing your breathing and keeping your body relaxed.
• Rest in stillness for a few moments when you are finished practicing so that the energy can continue to flow through you. Bring it back down and store it in your belly chakra for later use.
• If you have left a store of energy in your head and feel some congestion there do Grounding and apply firm pressure with your fingertips to your crown chakra.

Excerpted from Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions eBook.

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Al Link and Pala Copeland
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I recently ordered your Tantra dvd and for few weeks I am doing about 100-150 pc pumps per day. I like the feeling it gives me after each exercise, some kind of light sexual energy through my genital area which lasts for perhaps15-30 minutes.

I do have a few questions though and wonder if you could help me.

1. It seems to be impossible for me to pull up my testicles without also tightening the anus. Should this be the case or should I be able to pull up balls without tightening the anus? All other muscles in my body I can keep still though.
2. Funny enough, after a few weeks practicing I have the feeling I have actually LESS control on my orgasm than more control. Is that coming in the practicing phase?
3. On the pushing down of the testicles, I can pull them up but the push part for me is simply letting go of the muscle and relax rather than actively push out.

Could you guide me further; that would be great as I love your video.

ANSWER

Glad you are enjoying the video and doing the exercises. Patience and practice are all that is needed for you to achieve complete success.

For your questions:

1. Keep practicing. The testicles are the same as any muscle in the genital area and you will eventually get it.
2. This is not uncommon. Don’t over-think these practices. Just hold the vision of what you want to accomplish, then practice continuously until your body, not your mind, gets it. Also, remember, it is about mastery, not control.
3. The push is not so much with the testicles. It is with the perineum (patch of skin between the testicles and anus, and the anus itself. The push out is the same as if you were going to the bathroom, e.g., peeing or having a bowel movement.

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This is a very awkward question to ask.  You see…I have been sexually frustrated for years.  My husband and I don’t have sex at all.  This has led me to having affairs which have been all good but somewhat embarrassing as at first I did not know what to feel or how to feel.

I want to have incredible sex.  I don’t want to have a love affair but want to be a “loving” sexual partner when I do have sex with men.  Those are my tendencies.  I am confused as to which technique I should learn more about – Tantra or Kuma Sutra.

I tend to have that loving touch, kissing, pressing against him, teasing, looking into his eyes….wanting to feel that energy.

I just don’t know where to begin.  I have started on this journey of liberation and for me it’s about easily giving and receiving to have an incredible experience each time.  It’s become a journey and a quest to be uninhibited and liberated from sex being taboo and only something you do when you are in love to it being and incredible experience of two people coming together and fusing our energies.

ANSWER

Kama Sutra is primarily about specific sexual techniques, e.g., kissing, biting, slapping, touching, sexual intercourse positions, talking, etc. Tantra is a spiritual practice, elevating sex to sacred sex, focusing a great deal on emotional connection and intimacy, working with the hot sexual energy, and awakening the higher spiritual consciousness by consciously working with sexual energy.

That being said, there is no need to pick one or the other. You can explore both, e.g., through our published books, our electronic books, our videos and our membership website. We offer depth instruction in both Tantra and Kama Sutra. You may also find a weekend workshop (for couples) to be quite useful.

Published Books by Al Link and Pala Copeland (If you prefer to learn by reading a book you can hold in your hands.)

eBooks and Audiobooks by Al Link and Pala Copeland (If you enjoy reading a book on your computer screen or handheld device.)

Videos (DVDs) by Al Link and Pala Copeland (If you prefer to learn by watching videos.)

• Tantra Home Study Course DVD (NOTE: This is a complete learning curriculum including detailed learning outcomes, questions for review and reflection. Also included is an electronic manual of text instruction.)
• Kama Sutra Home Study Course DVD (NOTE: This is a complete learning curriculum including detailed learning outcomes, questions for review and reflection. Also included is an electronic manual of text instruction.)

Sexy Spiritual Relationships Membership Website

Here you can access our entire body of work from the past 20 years, for a very low monthly fee. Most of our published books, electronic books and videos are available at our membership website. This might be the best place to start, as you could take a look at all or our materials for one very low price. Obviously it would cost much more to get everything we have produced if you purchase all of the items separately. We add new material continuously to the membership site as it is released.

Workshops and Retreats Hosted by Al Link and Pala Copeland (If you prefer personal instruction from a teacher.)

Held monthly in our home near Ottawa Ontario Canada. Only three couples per weekend!

Costa Rica Retreat – February 2011

A most romantic week on the beach in this tropical paradise! The learning adventure of a lifetime. Very hot, very sexy!

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“YabYum” (variation – “full see saw”)

Experiment with making sound at each chakra point, chanting or “toning” together to focus the energy. You will be amazed at how beautiful the sound is when you are working with such a high sexual charge of life force energy. Go ahead and have some fun.

Excerpted from our Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions eBook.

4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra

Al Link and Pala Copeland

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“YabYum” (variation – “see saw”)

Your attention at this point is on working with the life force energy that has been built up during active lovemaking. Do some PC squeezing (Kegels) to help you circulate the hot sexual energy away from your genitals up through your body through the higher chakra centers. Try to exchange your sexual / spiritual energy with your lover, and ultimately use it to make a direct connection with the Divine.

Excerpted from our Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions eBook.

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Al Link and Pala Copeland

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“YabYum” (variation – sitting in a chair)

The term Yab Yum is actually a Tantric name. In the Kama Sutra this position is called the Embrace of Milk and Water.

If the lotus position is too difficult, the man may sit on the edge of the bed or on a straight-backed chair with his legs out in front of him and feet on the floor. Once you are snugly connected, be still, look into each other’s eyes, harmonize your breathing, connect your mouths and tongues with a kiss, or touch third eye points.

This material is excerpted from our Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions eBook by Al Link and Pala Copeland

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The classic Tantric lovemaking position is the YabYum (father / mother; yin / yang) position. We sometimes refer to it as the yum-yum position. Use it for moving and exchanging sexual energy when you are at a peak of sexual arousal and want to ride the wave of bliss rather than to continue building more hot sexual energy or end the lovemaking with the man ejaculating.

“YabYum” (variation – classic lotus)

The man sits cross-legged, in the lotus position, with his partner on top of his lap. You may support his thighs and back with pillows. When you are ready to resume more active lovemaking, you can easily roll from this position into man or woman on top or face-to-face on your sides while still maintaining your genital connection.

This material is excerpted from our Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions eBook by Al Link and Pala Copeland

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Last fall, my wife and I took the Introduction to Tantra course from you and Pala. I have one quick question that I hope you can help me with.

She needs much more foreplay than I do; I fall into the perhaps “typical” male behavior of being ready for sex at any time. She likes slow, grounded touches prior to lovemaking, and these touches are best if done over the course of a day, or at least a period of several hours.  My problem is that the more I touch her, the more I get stimulated. This means I either over stimulate her or end up in discomfort myself. I have worked on breathing as well as the external prostate massage, but don’t think I’m yet all the way there. So, I’m wondering if you have any tips on this situation.

ANSWER

Here are a few things to consider.

1. Beware of the goal orientation in lovemaking. The goal orientation means you are focused on getting somewhere other than where you are, i.e., that is usually to penetration and ultimately to orgasm, typically with ejaculation for the man. This means you would be using everything as a means to an end, in other words, touching her in order to get her turned on so you can get inside. She will know this in ways that are mysterious and unexplainable; you can’t fool her on this. The alternative is to be in the now moment, fully present in what you are doing, for itself, not just as a means to an end. Touching her is all you are doing, not touching her to get her turned on, to get inside her; same with kissing, conversation, dancing, etc.
2. Your other challenge is to gain mastery with the hot sexual energy. The discomfort you are describing is because you have not learned how to move the hot sexual energy up through your body, away from your genitals, particularly the prostate. To successfully move the hot sexual energy you will need many repetitions (e.g., 100 per day), of PC squeezing, i.e., squeezing as if you were stopping the flow of urine. You can use the full passion pump exercise that you learned in the Tantra Introduction Workshop with all the parts including breathing, visualization, PC pump, cranial pump, moving hands up the body, relaxation of the entire body (except for the one muscle you want to squeeze, e.g., the perineum), harmonizing breath with your partner, holding eye contact, etc.
3. Try the internal prostate massage! It is far superior to the external prostate massage through the perineum.

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I used to be able to have an orgasm on command and now that I am with my new partner who I have an intense spiritual connection with I cannot have an orgasm.  I feel like I am having multiple little orgasms all of the time when I touch him and when he touches me; It feels like I am having a whole body orgasm. I feel it throughout my whole body and it is continuous.  However, because I am tingly and numb throughout my whole body all of the time including in the genital area, I can’t seem to ejaculate.  My partner feels like my twin and I have never felt this way towards anyone; we can’t get enough of each other, we can’t get close enough and it is like we do not feel right without touching each other.  We could spend hours just touching each other and enjoying each other.  Neither of us have experienced this before.  What I am wondering is if it is possible to have a whole body orgasm and experience ejaculation because I kind of miss the ejaculation?

ANSWER

How wonderful for you, it sounds as though you’ve found an amazing partner.

Your description is very much of full body orgasm that stems from high sexual energy charge — extremely pleasurable but different from the intensity of a genitally focused sexual tension release orgasm (which may or may not be accompanied by ejaculation).

You can have full body orgasm and still ejaculate, because ejaculation and orgasm are not the same thing (this is true for men too). They often happen very closely together, but you can separate them.

A brief instruction on how to ejaculate:

1. Make sure you are very hydrated (drink lots of water before lovemaking)

2. Make sure you are very aroused

3. Stimulate the g-spot – with fingers, dildo, penis

3. Tilt your pelvis forward, push down with your vaginal muscles and your stomach muscles.

That’s it. Good luck, Pala

PS We’re producing a video on female ejaculation and how to do it – It will be ready in early November. So, in November check our www.tantra-sex.com website for details on how get a copy.

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