Sex is essential in a fulfilling mate relationship, unless you have consciously chosen to have one that is platonic, more akin to friendship than marriage. In a true marriage, based upon lifelong commitment, sexual fulfillment and abundance in love and pleasure are inseparable from relationship happiness. And relationship happiness is the surest, quickest, and easiest route through to your personal emotional maturity and spiritual awakening.

Sex is good and pleasure is not only good, it’s actually necessary for peak mental and emotional well-being. Sexual fulfillment is good for you personally, and for everyone else around you. Your children, friends, neighbors, and co-workers will benefit from your happiness, vitality, and positive state of mind. You’ll also discover that sexual fulfillment, and its accompanying high state of physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being make you productive in your work, more creative in your art, and more excellent in your sport.

Taking time to feed your body with the sensual nutrition of loving erotic touch, connecting on the most intimate levels with your lover, experiencing beyond any doubt that you’re cared for and loved, makes everything else in

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You must learn to work consciously with your hot sexual energy. The first step is to start doing PC squeezing. Squeeze the genital muscles as if you were stopping the flow of urine midstream. Hold the squeeze for 5-8 seconds, then relax the squeeze for 2 seconds, repeat for approximately 100 repetitions per day. You do not need to do all 100 at one time, but over the course of the day. Use some

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A man and I have fallen in love. He lives in the UK, and I am in the US. We have a very strong spiritual connection, as well as a physical desire for each other.  We stare at each other online for a long period of time, sometimes having a fantasy together, using only typed words, audio, video or all 3.  We find ourselves feeling weary. Is there a way for us to feel fulfilled and energized online, rather than depleted?  Is not being able to physically touch the reason we are left weary and depleted? We are both over 60!

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You've created an interesting challenge for each other! It sounds both fulfilling and frustrating for you.


To make a connection over great physical distance, you can focus on your energetic body, not your physical body — energy bodies can go anywhere

 
Begin by focusing intently on your physical body, starting at your head and very slowly feeling each part of you all the way down to your feet. Notice where there is tension, where you are relaxed, areas that you don't really notice any sensation. Be sure to breathe slowly and deeply to help you relax. When you are tuned in to your body endeavor to feel the

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Thanks for ordering our Soul Sex book.


No, we do not address that problem in the book.


It is a relatively rare problem. By far, the more common problem is ejaculation too quickly.
 

When the prostate spasms that is the ejaculation response, but the entire genital area is involved, including the testicles, the penile shaft, etc.


I suggest a high quality Prostate Formula supplement to maintain the integrity of the prostate. This is available in any health food store, and should address any nutritional deficiency that may be involved.

 

The other thing I would mention is to stop trying to ejaculate. Stop treating this as a problem. It is really not a problem unless the male wants to impregnate a female, and at the age of 63, this is not likely to be an issue. Instead of trying to ejaculate for a few seconds of pleasure, I recommend learning how to circulate the accumulated hot sexual energy up through the body, using PC squeezing and visualization. Work up to approximately 100 PC squeezes per day. A PC squeeze involves tightening the muscles in the genital area as if you were stopping the flow of urine midstream. Simultaneously, visualize the hot sexual energy moving up from the genitals along the spinal column to the crown of the head, then back down the front of the body returning to the genitals. Success doing this may well result in his having an orgasm without any ejaculation, an experience most men consider far superior to any ordinary ejaculation.

Al Link and Pala Copeland

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Many men diligently practice for years to be able to do what you are describing happens without any effort at all. Be delighted with such a wonderful gift.

 
Tantric and Taoist sacred sexuality practices both emphasize delaying ejaculation for long periods of time, e.g., days, weeks and months between ejaculations, or at the extreme no ejaculation ever. We do not recommend this extreme position.
 

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A male age 27 is young enough that unless there is some existing health challenge, he can engage in sexual acts as often as he wants to. The question of ejaculation is interesting for all males to consider. It would be a great advantage for a young male to begin learning how to delay the ejaculation response, cultivate a high sexual energy charge, and circulate that energy up through the body rather than release it with an ordinary ejaculation. This makes possible orgasm without ejaculation, and multiple orgasms. Accumulating this energy and working with it consciously can yield a significant competitive advantage (in sport, art, business, etc.) to any male who masters it.

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Is sounds like you must be using control to stop the ejaculation. This is not a viable long-term strategy. Control is the enemy of ecstasy as control stops the flow of energy. The energy must move and flow if you are going to have any higher more spiritual experience. Focus your attention on what you do want, not on what you don't want. Up to now I would say you must have been focusing on what you don't want, ejaculation, but instead, focus on what you do want, to move and circulate the energy away from your genitals, up through the rest of your body.


It is like a pressure cooker in the genitals, and as the hot sexual energy builds there, it will become painful, like an inflammation, if that energy is not released. Since you are able to stop the ejaculation, you are experiencing this discomfort. However, if you successfully move the energy away from your prostate, up through the rest of your body, you will not have any of that discomfort, even if you do not ejaculate.


You move the energy by doing PC squeezes, i.e., squeeze the muscles in the genital area as if you were stopping the flow of urine mid-stream. Breath in a slow deep

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I suggest you drop the goal orientation of getting to orgasm. Replace it with a pleasure orientation; mutually giving and receiving pleasure, always with your full attention in the now moment so every touch, every breath, every contact of your eyes is significant, full, rich, enough. With the goal orientation all of these touches and contacts are reduced to being merely means to an end, only of value to get somewhere else; hence they become devoid of the pleasure they are otherwise naturally saturated with.


Furthermore, I suggest you explore separating orgasm and ejaculation. Learn how to work consciously with your hot sexual energy, to cultivate it, move it and share it with your lover. It is possible to have orgasms, many  of them, none of which needs to be accompanied by ejaculation.


Here are two free articles you can study to begin this practice.

Voluntary Ejaculation

Simple Techniques for Mastering Ejaculation


We also offer a more detailed electronic book with full instructions.

Voluntary Ejaculation and Male Multiple Orgasms eBook

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My problem is my sperm is go down before doing sexual activities. So how can I take a control?

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I am not sure I understand your question. I think you are saying that you ejaculate even before intercourse, which would make intercourse impossible.

There are 2 free articles we (Al Link and Pala Copeland) have written that give detailed instructions for learning ejaculation mastery, which would enable you to last longer before ejaculating.


Voluntary Ejaculation

 
Simple Techniques for Mastering Ejaculation


 You can find even more detailed instruction in our eBook Voluntary Ejaculation and Male Sexual Mastery.

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