It makes quite uncomfortable for me

Well, here is my problem. I am 34 years old and dated more than a few men.  Not a lot, but more than two or three. All of the guys were what I would consider average or a little better in the penis department. I have never considered myself a size queen, nor do I [...]

Why you should make love longer

Truly satisfying lovemaking on all levels, emotional and spiritual as well as physical, requires time. It’s about much more than intense intercourse or even foreplay. Harmony must be established between the lovers. And that means connecting through your hearts and minds before you jump each other’s bodies. Pala and Al tell you how—it’s simple, fun [...]

Asking for What You Want Sexually Part 2

Asking your lover for what you want and giving your lover whatever has been requested are two sides of the same coin—a yin/yang balance of receiving/giving, and passive/active pleasure. Just as it is important to learn to freely ask for what pleases you, it is also important to know that you can give unconditionally. This [...]

Asking for What You Want Sexually Part 1

It may be difficult to ask for what you want in bed if you do not know what that is. Furthermore, you may not have any language to use to ask for what you want. Here are some simple exercises to help you discover what you like and do not like, and to create a [...]

He likes to talk dirty during sex

I have a question about role playing in sex. I am 50 and have a serious relationship with a man who is 51. Both of us have come out of a long marriage and have been Divorced 3-5 years. We are very compatible and connect deeply on all levels. We have a great sex life [...]

I have been sexually frustrated for years

This is a very awkward question to ask.  You see…I have been sexually frustrated for years.  My husband and I don’t have sex at all.  This has led me to having affairs which have been all good but somewhat embarrassing as at first I did not know what to feel or how to feel. I [...]

I am not interested in him sexually anymore but I want to have sex.

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 9 years. We have been sexually active for 6 years but I am not enjoying like I use to. I am not interested in him sexually anymore but I want to have sex. I’m bored when we do it and I get no satisfaction from [...]

The more I touch her, the more I get stimulated

Last fall, my wife and I took the Introduction to Tantra course from you and Pala. I have one quick question that I hope you can help me with. She needs much more foreplay than I do; I fall into the perhaps “typical” male behavior of being ready for sex at any time. She likes [...]

I like too much anal sex and group sex with my wife

I like too much anal sex and group sex with my wife, but she doesn’t. What should I do? ANSWER Anal sex is a not to everyone’s liking, nor is group sex. Lots of anal sex could turn almost anyone off unless they are really into it, which does not sound like the case with [...]

I want our relationship to become closer.

I have a good relationship with an attractive older woman. She is 19 years older than I am. We enjoy deep conversations. I want our relationship to become closer. I want sex with her and find it appropriate for us to have it. She has not said that she does not want sex in our [...]

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