Well, here is my problem. I am 34 years old and dated more than a few men.  Not a lot, but more than two or three. All of the guys were what I would consider average or a little better in the penis department. I have never considered myself a size queen, nor do I now, but I have always wanted to try a big cock just for the experience. Well, recently I got what I wanted and started dating a great guy who turns out is very endowed in cock size. The problem is that when we are having sex and he is thrusting into me, his cock beats against my cervix and makes it quite uncomfortable for me. We have great foreplay; kissing, touching, and oral pleasure. He is not rough and starts out very gentle actually. But when he gets worked up, he is giving it to me pretty good. I thought the vaginal canal expanded when in a state of arousal, but I am not sure. That is my first question. My second is are there positions that are more “cervix friendly”? I am thinking that “big” is not as good as all the girls make it out to be.

ANSWERS:

Here are some suggestions:

1. Woman on top positions give you control over depth, speed and angle of penetration.

2. Lying on your sides, either facing toward or away from each other, with your legs closed, cuts down the depth of penetration and range of thrusting, but he feels like he’s going deep because his penis is passing between your thighs.

3. Man on top positions, with your hips raised, open your vagina for deeper penetration. Depending on how aroused you are and what your size is compared to his, this can be great or feel like too much — if he still feels like he’s too big you can experiment with holding his penis in your hand as he slides in and out — protects you and gives him lots of coverage – be sure to lubricate your hands.

4. Practice doing kegel exercises also called PC squeezes — learning to work your vaginal muscles. You can become more flexible with these practices and if you get to the point where you can relax your body while tipping your pelvis forward and pushing down with your vaginal muscles at the back of the vagina, you’ll bring the cervix forward and open up the space behind where the cervix comes down into the vagina. This space is the “cul-de-sace” sometimes also called the “x-spot” and it feels very, very good when the head of his penis pushes here.

Have fun experimenting!

You might also want to check out our ebooks for more detailed information on positions and women’s orgasms.

All good things,

4freedoms@tantraloving.com

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I have been getting nausea before and during my period. When I started my period I wasn’t bleeding very heavily and I had sex and know I am spotting. What does that mean?

ANSWER

The symptoms you describe can mean a lot of different things, so the best advice I can give you if this keeps up is to see your doctor.

For instance, nausea before and during a period can just be one of a number of side effects of the menstrual cycle. Others include Cramps, Vomiting, Loose bowel movements/diarrhea, Constipation, Bloating in your belly area, Headaches, and Lightheadedness (feeling faint).

Or, it could be an ovarian cyst -  An ovarian cyst is a fluid-filled sac in or on the ovary. Many ovarian cysts are noncancerous cysts that occur as a result of ovulation (the release of an egg from the ovary). These are called functional cysts. Functional cysts normally shrink on their own over time, usually in about 1 to 3 months. Often functional cysts do not cause any symptoms (you may not even know you have one), but other times they can cause abdominal pain, menstrual irregularities, nausea and vomiting.

Or, if you aren’t using adequate protection during sex you could be pregnant — you can still have a period if you are pregnant.

Spotting after sex also can have many causes — everything from “rough sex”, your body’s reaction to birth control pills (if you are using them), a variety of sexually transmitted infections, cervical polyps, fibroid tumors and so on. Some women have light spotting around the time of ovulation.

Good luck, and remember when situations like this occur it’s best to consult your healthcare provider as soon as possible. You’ll save yourself a lot of worry over issues that can often be quickly remedied.

All good things,

4freedoms@tantraloving.com
www.sexyspiritualrelationships.com
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