I’m 24 years with 3 kids. My sex life with my husband its not to good. He's a kind of man who wants to have sex every night, but by the end of the day I’m so tired and with a big headache and don’t feel like having sex. The only thing I want to do at night is get to bed, get some sleep and get ready for the next day. I want to be the same and have sex with him every night. I want some answers or any tips to my question.
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Your situation is a common one, many women share this dilemma. When you're tired and stressed, it's hard to wake up your sex drive.
You need to find ways to get more rest. Can you husband help out more with the kids and the housework? Do you have anyone else who can help you with these tasks? Is it possible to have
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My ex and I have decided to give each other another try. It’s been a long time since we broke up. He’s been married/divorced; I have never been married. I have a 16 year old handicapped daughter. It’s been 2 years since I broke up with her dad. We lived together 9 months and he hurt me real bad. Now he’s my daughter's father and the type who will just show up or call. He wants me back even though he has a girlfriend. I have got where I don’t open the door, don’t want to, so he may storm off or maybe hit the wall. How do I tell my friend I'm starting a relationship with how he acts? He hasn't been around in 3 weeks, but i feel he will just show up again and then what do I do? Let him in and then pray he doesn't flip when i say I have moved on? I have another ex. We broke up as friends and now he sometimes spends the night, but he will be all right when I mention someone else. In other words both my ex's can get on my nerves, one just worse than the other. I like Gino a lot and i do not want any drama. I don’t know how he may react because what my daughter's father did to me was real low and I have told Gina i was in a bad relationship and I feel I should not say anymore.
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If your daughter’s father makes a disturbing scene when he comes around, you can get a police restraining order which prevents him from doing that. If he violates the restraining order he could go to jail. You have much drama in your life, whether you want it or not. If you want to put an end to the drama, stop being so dramatic. Start to clear things with all parties (the three men) involved, by letting them each know where they stand in the pecking order, and informing them of what is acceptable behavior and what is not. If you are not willing to do that you are being deceptive and manipulating them with your deceit. For example, you could clearly state to your daughter’s father, that he is welcome to come by and pick up his daughter for visitation (and take her with him – not visit her at your home), but otherwise he is not welcome to visit at all and that if he persists you will have to get a restraining order. Also inform him you are not interested in him any longer as a partner (friend, sex, etc.) and that you have another man (or men) in your life. Then tell the other men about each other so they can decide if they find that arrangement acceptable. If you are not willing to do that, then keep one of the other two men, and tell the other one to go. The drama is created by yourself when you do not honestly communicate with all parties involved about what you want so they can then decide freely what they want. For example, the other two men may be happy to share your attention and have you share your bed with both of them, or they may not. But if you tell them the way it is, then they can decide and either way, whether they stay or go, your drama will end.
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I recently found an ad that was posted by my fiancé on craigslist. It called out for an affair with a married woman and it also listed "NTS" alone in a separate sentence. Can you please tell me what NTS means? I can’t find it anywhere!
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We're not exactly clear on the definition of the NTS acronyms in personals ads either. It's not listed in the personals section of all-acronyms.com nor in the acronyms for Dating Online section at Pink Fringe
Check the context of the term in the ad, NTS can mean "Not Too Sure" "Note The Sarcasm" "Nothing to Say" or something entirely different.
Why not ask your fiancé? If you are planning on getting married, it's important to face issues squarely together, even if you are afraid or hurt. Who knows where this may lead? Talking about your sexual fantasies and desires could strengthen your relationship immeasurably. At least you will understand his point of view.
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I need help. I am married and two years ago ran into one of my ex-girlfriends who is also married. I started talking to her, then she gave me her email address, at first I complimented her and pretty much told her I still had feelings for her. We met one night at a ball game and talked for a hour or so.
After a month or so she made the statement to stop saying nice things about her that her husband may read her email and get the wrong idea. I thought I had overstepped my bounds. The other day she emailed me and wanted to meet me in town, we did, we talked for hours, she took me and met her daughter and grandbaby, when we went to leave she hugged me and held on for a while. I told her how I felt about her, she has not yet told me how she feels.
Although she gave me her phone number, called me for 3 days after our meeting, and invites me over to her house regular to meet her husband, she says that me and him have a lot in common. I am confused and she tiptoes around every question I ask about how she feels. What should I do? Is she interested?
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Get clear within yourself about what you really want. Consider all the people involved in this situation including your wife and children (if you have any), your ex-girlfriend's husband and her children. All of these people are going to be affected by the actions you take. When people have an affair and get caught, their spouse will almost always say, "What hurts me the most is all the lying and deception, the humiliation of it all." Do you really want to do that to her, because inevitably the affair will come to light, your wife will almost certainly find out about it.
Let your wife know you are thinking about an affair, before you actually have the affair. Discuss with her what this means about your marriage. Include her in your decision. Have your ex-girlfriend do the same with her husband.
Hint: you might want to do something else first even before you each talk to your spouses. Ask your ex-girlfriend straight out, what her intentions are and insist on an answer. If she won't answer clearly, stay clear. This could make it unnecessary for you to have the conversation with your wife.
Whichever way you proceed, the most important thing is for you to get clear about your marriage.
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My boyfriend of 2 years asked me to marry him. And I said yes, but I feel like i made a mistake. He's 21, with a child on the way (with his ex-girlfriend) and I’m 18 with a younger brother who I’m raising. My mother died of cancer 2 years ago, and my father I never knew because my mother was raped *conceived me* and my brother’s father left my mother when she told him she was pregnant. I really feel like it would be too much of a burden if we got married right now.
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Marriage is a very significant change in any person’s life, carrying with it important responsibilities. You are mature for your years considering the duties associated with raising a younger brother that you have taken on. At 18 years you are barely into the age that anyone would describe as young adult yourself.
Saying yes to getting married does not mean that you have to actually go through the legal process anytime soon. Saying yes simply means you are now engaged.
I definitely advise putting off the actual date of the marriage until later. How much later?
Wait until the new baby is born, and see what the child care arrangements will be, e.g., will the child stay with the mother or with the father, or joint custody? If the father has full or joint custody, you can get a feel for how it would work out, and how much of a role you will be willing and able to play in the life of the new baby.
You can discover how you are with the new baby, how much you want to be responsible for the child’s care, how much the father actually contributes to taking on that responsibility, sharing of child care and other homemaking tasks.
You can also get a feel for how all of this will affect your brother. Understand that the effect of brining two new people into his life will be a major adjustment for him as well as yourself.
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Is there an acceptable on unacceptable age difference between men and women when it comes to dating? I'm 19 and am becoming very much attracted and interested in a 28 year old man.
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Age difference is only an issue if you make it one. What really matters is that you love each other. Other important things are relationship, communication, and sexual knowledge and skill.
Of course there can be particular circumstances that are extreme, e.g., when one of the partners is a minor (under the legal age for sexual consent). Age in that situation matters a great deal. If the age spread were very large, e.g., 2 or 3 decades (20-30 years) this would bring in some special circumstances where issues that would not otherwise be relevant need to be addressed. For example, the older partner might not want to have children and the younger partner might want to have children. But normally age differences between the partners would be one of the least important issues.
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Why would a married man ask a woman if she has had sex with someone else, since they have not seen each other?
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I am not sure I understand your question, particularly the last part, “since they have not seen each other.”
I assume you mean a married man is having or is considering having a sexual affair with another woman (not his wife). If that is the situation you have in mind, then of course he might enquire about her sexual history with other lovers. This is the age of AIDS after all and it is now well understood that when you have unprotected sex with someone, you are actually exposing yourself to a number of nasty and even deadly sexually transmitted diseases such as AIDS. It would be a perfectly reasonable, rational, and intelligent question to ask a potential sex partner about their previous sexual activity. If you are not doing this with your sexual partners, I urge you to start doing so immediately. If you are embarrassed or offended by such questioning, you are living in a past that no longer exists, and doing so is at your own peril.
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How to make a girl I love, love me in return?
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Here is an article discussing unrequited love (love given but not returned). You are not alone in suffering from this condition.
Here is a search on Google for love spells.
Some of these links may be worth following to find out about using love spells, though we do not use them and can’t recommend that you do. Note, many of these sites are selling a service, and we cannot endorse any such service for a fee. If you can find ideas that you can implement on your own, without having to pay for the information, that may be worthwhile for you to experiment with as a last resort before moving on to find someone else.
Basically, we recommend that you move on to find someone who will return your love. Create a vision of the type of relationship you want, not of the ideal partner, then act when an opportunity arises for you to engage someone in a relationship you would both create together, with mutual love given and received, both ways.
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I seem to cum pretty quick as I get pretty turned on. Is there anything I could to do to make myself go for a while?
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I have been dating this guy for a few weeks and I have had sex with two guys and he is a virgin. He is pretty religious. I don’t really know where he stands about sex before marriage and I’m too embarrassed to ask. And I feel awkward trying to make advances towards him. I want to have sex with him but I don’t know what to do about this whole situation, please help.
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My belief is that being open and honest about what is really going on will be the only way to enter into a relationship with any chance of surviving in the long term. If you don’t care about that then it doesn’t really matter if you communicate your needs and desires and true feelings. If it turns him off and he leaves, by your own admission that does not matter.
On the other hand, if you do care about a longer term relationship then telling him what you need and desire (and sharing some of your past behaviours) will set the stage to find out if you are compatible. If you use deceit to keep him around longer, eventually your dark secrets will be revealed and then he is likely to leave because the relationship was built upon a foundation of shifting sand and cannot sustain commitment and honesty and will not provide support for the ongoing emotional, psychological and spiritual growth that will become increasingly important as you advance in age and maturity.
Tell all and if that scares him away, better to find out now rather than later, unless you have years to waste playing games.
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