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You are absolutely perfectly normal. And hey isn't it wonderful that you are able to have orgasms?


First off, ejaculation and orgasm are not the same thing, for women or for men. We equate them in our minds because they often happen very closely together–almost always for men unless they have learned ejaculation mastery, and sometimes for women.


Just as orgasm is something you as a woman learn to do, so is ejaculation. Here are some tips:

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Yes of course you deserve something. He was being a selfish jerk. But if you get angry it will not be helpful, not even a little bit helpful. What would be helpful is if you reveal to your fiancé that his lack of attention to you on this special lovers romantic holiday hurts your feelings. And of course this desire to have him carry you in his thoughts and in his heart would extend to every day of the year, not just on special days such as Valentine’s, or birthdays, or anniversaries. When you respond by revealing that his indifference to you hurt you, and perhaps that it makes you afraid that he does not love you (only if that is a real fear of course), means you are opening your heart to him, because opening your heart means that you have the courage to take the risk by daring to reveal what you are feeling and this makes you emotionally vulnerable and transparent. On the other hand, anger typically results in making him want to fight or run away, which is what he did by storming out of the house in a huff. His angry response at being called on his callous and indifferent behavior toward you was only a childish ego defense. If he does not respond well to your revealing that his behavior hurts you or makes you afraid, you are advised to think long and carefully if you want to go ahead with marriage to this man. If things are not good before marriage, they are not likely to be better after marriage.

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One of the most important things to remember when pleasing a woman is to go very very slowly. Start with light soft touches and only progress to firmer, harder and faster as her arousal builds. Start at the extremities and work your way in toward the hot spots of breasts and genitals. Don’t go near the genitals until she is already fully aroused. Spend lots of time kissing. Speak loving words of adoration and affection in her ears. When you find something that works, in other words, she lets you know with sound and movement that she likes your touch, then keep doing that until she indicates she is ready for a change. Sound and movement mean yes, this is working, this turns her on; quiet and still means this is not working and you should try something different, unless of course you are deliberately in a phase of quiet and stillness.


Our book The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra provides detailed instruction on all aspects of foreplay, sexual intercourse positions, and afterplay.

Al Link and Pala Copeland

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No wonder you are confused, but I wouldn't go accusing your partner of fooling around just yet. This sudden onset of extreme tightness may be a condition called "vaginismus". Vaginismus is a spasm in the musculature of the outer third of the vagina which makes insertion difficult or impossible. For some women, this muscle spasm is painful; for others, it is not.


According to the Mount Sinai Hospital (Toronto, Canada) website: "It is widely believed that in most cases of vaginismus, the spasm is triggered either by pain or the anticipation of pain (emotional or physical pain). Much like the way an eyelid closes when something comes to close to the eye or a muscle flinches in response to an imminent punch, vaginismus is like a vaginal flinch.


It is in some sense protecting the area, even though the woman doesn't want it to. Some women have fears or guilt regarding intercourse, others have physical pain problems, and still others have no obvious cause for their condition. One perplexing aspect of vaginismus is that often the spasm remains long after the woman has dealt with any anxieties or physical problems. So learning to control and eliminate this spasm is how one cures vaginismus."


In your partner's case, if she is indeed experiencing vaginismus, it could well have been precipitated by the extra large dildo you played with shortly before her new "tightness" came about, now her vagina may be trying to protect itself.

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The problem you describe, of having difficulty ejaculating when you want to, is much less common than the problem of ejaculating before you are ready, but many men do suffer from this situation.


Ironically, the cause for both is likely to be the same. Let me explain.

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There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. Women can experience all kinds of orgasms, from clitoral orgasm, to orgasm during intercourse, to full-body orgasms and more. Although your body has the potential for all these experiences, you must LEARN how. Orgasms are something we learn to have. According to lots of studies more than 50% of women do not experience orgasm during intercourse, especially without clitoral stimulation at the same time. However, if you want to you can learn!

 
For starters, read this article we wrote for Urban Male Magazine, "Freeing the Female Orgasm"


You might also want to get our ebook "Awakening Women's Orgasm" which goes into great detail about how to learn to become fully orgasmic.

Read all about it here: www.tantra-sex.com


Enjoy your quest for many types of orgasm, have fun exploring together. It's a great journey to be on!

Al Link and Pala Copeland

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Ask yourself the following questions and the answers may give you a clue why this is happening, what caused it, and possibly what to do to reverse the condition.


First, is it really a problem? Are there any undesirable aspects to having the sperm thick? Are there any other symptoms that accompany the thick sperm? Is thick sperm a sudden change from what you may have believed to be normal sperm (not thick)? When did this changer first appear? Were there any other changes in your lifestyle (e.g., diet, quantity of water consumed, medications, drug use, frequency of ejaculation, etc.), or in your body (e.g., some medical condition such as symptoms of burning urination, difficulty urinating, discharge from the penis, etc.) at that same time or now; something you could associate or connect to the thickening of the sperm?

 
One hypothesis is that you have low testosterone. Low testosterone may also show up as any of the following symptoms: weight gain, reduced muscle tone and strength, low energy, and mild irritability. If you suspect it is related to low testosterone, you doctor can do a blood test to determine the level of free testosterone in your system, and if it is abnormally low, he has various options to help you increase your testosterone.


Basically, if there are no other symptoms or complications associated with the thick sperm, and if this is not a sudden change, i.e., it is normal for you, then it is probably not a problem and nothing needs to be done about it. If it is a problem, if it is associated with other undesirable symptoms, then see your doctor to get it checked out.


Another hypothesis is that thick sperm is the best sperm!

Al Link and Pala Copeland

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You must learn to work consciously with your hot sexual energy. The first step is to start doing PC squeezing. Squeeze the genital muscles as if you were stopping the flow of urine midstream. Hold the squeeze for 5-8 seconds, then relax the squeeze for 2 seconds, repeat for approximately 100 repetitions per day. You do not need to do all 100 at one time, but over the course of the day. Use some

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You must learn to work consciously with your hot sexual energy. The first step is to start doing PC squeezing. Squeeze the genital muscles as if you were stopping the flow of urine midstream. Hold the squeeze for 5-8 seconds, then relax the squeeze for 2 seconds, repeat for approximately 100 repetitions per day. You do not need to do all 100 at one time, but over the course of the day. Use some regular task or occurrence to help you remember to do the squeezing, e.g., while standing in line, sitting in a meeting, working at a computer, etc.


We have a complete instruction manual in our eBook, Voluntary Ejaculation and Male Multiple Orgasms. If you systematically work through that course within a few weeks, or perhaps months you will gain the mastery you are looking for, without the need to drink alcohol.

Al Link and Pala Copeland

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