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Your penis size is in the normal range, but it always looks smaller when looking down at your own penis. Look at it in a mirror to get a better impression. What matters is that your lady is happy with it and you know how to use it to make her happy.

 
Your frequency of lovemaking is pretty low. Since you mention this in the context of talking about masturbation, I am assuming that you

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Thanks for ordering our Soul Sex book.


No, we do not address that problem in the book.


It is a relatively rare problem. By far, the more common problem is ejaculation too quickly.
 

When the prostate spasms that is the ejaculation response, but the entire genital area is involved, including the testicles, the penile shaft, etc.


I suggest a high quality Prostate Formula supplement to maintain the integrity of the prostate. This is available in any health food store, and should address any nutritional deficiency that may be involved.

 

The other thing I would mention is to stop trying to ejaculate. Stop treating this as a problem. It is really not a problem unless the male wants to impregnate a female, and at the age of 63, this is not likely to be an issue. Instead of trying to ejaculate for a few seconds of pleasure, I recommend learning how to circulate the accumulated hot sexual energy up through the body, using PC squeezing and visualization. Work up to approximately 100 PC squeezes per day. A PC squeeze involves tightening the muscles in the genital area as if you were stopping the flow of urine midstream. Simultaneously, visualize the hot sexual energy moving up from the genitals along the spinal column to the crown of the head, then back down the front of the body returning to the genitals. Success doing this may well result in his having an orgasm without any ejaculation, an experience most men consider far superior to any ordinary ejaculation.

Al Link and Pala Copeland

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Anal sex would not normally harm you anal sphincter and tissues, although extremely rough anal sex could cause damage.
 

Yes you can strengthen and tone all of the muscles in the entire genital and anal area with squeezing exercises done daily.
 

The squeeze would be the same as if you were holding back from peeing or stopping the flow of urine mid-stream (for the vulva), and holding back on a bowel movement for the anus. Squeeze and hold for approximately 6-8 seconds, then relax the squeeze.


Work up gradually to doing perhaps 100 squeezes per day over say the next 2 weeks, then continue 100 per day after that. Within approximately 2 weeks you should notice considerable improvement in toning, strength and pleasurable sensitivity.

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Many men diligently practice for years to be able to do what you are describing happens without any effort at all. Be delighted with such a wonderful gift.

 
Tantric and Taoist sacred sexuality practices both emphasize delaying ejaculation for long periods of time, e.g., days, weeks and months between ejaculations, or at the extreme no ejaculation ever. We do not recommend this extreme position.
 

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It is the muscles of the pelvic  floor, i.e., the Pubococcygeus (PC) mucle(s) that control the flow of urine. It is hard to imaging sex rough enough to damage those muscles, but anything is possible. In any case a daily sexual physical fitness practice  would be appropriate.

 
Over the next two weeks work up to doing 200-300 PC squeezes per day. Don’t try to do them all at once, but over the course of the day, remember to do some, for example when you are driving,      working on the computer, standing in line, attending a meeting, etc.

 
Squeeze as if you were stopping the flow of urine midstream. Hold the squeeze approximately 8 seconds, relax the squeeze and repeat.

 
This should strengthen the PC muscle sufficiently within one to two weeks so you no longer have this problem. If this is the correct diagnosis it would not take more than one month of continuous practice to reverse any damage that has been done.

 
It is probably not necessary to see a physician unless you begin to feel pain, in which case by all means see a doctor. Also, if not corrected within one month, see a doctor.

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There can be a number of reasons why you aren't experiencing as much lubrication as you like or as you were used to. There's a wide range of "normal" amounts of lubrication. Every woman is different and will experience a range in vaginal lubrication during her lifetime.

1.Harsh soaps or douches can dry tender skin. Don't douche and use only very mild soap for washing externally. Your vagina cleans itself naturally inside.

2.You may be allergic to chemicals in your laundry soap or if you use scented toilet paper, etc. Chlorine in swimming pools can cause dryness and kill helpful bacteria in your vagina so that you might get vaginal infections.

3.You may have a skin condition that is causing your dryness — check with your doctor.

4.Are you dry throughout the whole length of your vagina? Sometimes juices gather at the back of the vagina. If you're lying on your back it may be gathering there. Check with a finger and, if you are wet deep inside, spread some forward and out onto your lips.

5.Make sure you are keeping your whole body hydrated — drink lots of water!

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The most basic practice you need to start is PC squeezing. This simple exercise tones and strengthens the muscles involved in the ejaculation response. Practice sqeezing and holding the squeeze with the Pubococcegeus Muscle, the muscles in the genital area from the pubic bone back to the coccyx (tip of the tailbone). The action is like stopping the flow of urine midstream. Squeeze and hold for say, 5 seconds. Work up to doing say 100 repetitions per day, but take about 2 weeks to build up to doing that many so you don’t get sore. Practice any time during the day, e.g., when stopped at a red light, standing in line, etc.
 

In our eBook Voluntary Ejaculation and Male Sexual Mastery (Under $10), we offer a complete course of instruction in how to delay ejaculation.

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Keep up your practice and be patient with yourself. Try framing your practice in terms of moving and circulating the hot sexual energy rather than to stop the ejaculation.


To have an orgasm without ejaculating you must 1) remain relaxed throughout your entire body, with the exception of that particular muscle you are contracting to push or pump the energy away from the prostate up through the rest of your body, and 2) you must successfully move the hot sexual energy away from the prostrate up through the rest of your body.


By working the PC muscle (actually a group of muscles), the idea is not to make them incredibly strong. They do not have to be incredibly strong in order to move the energy, just strong enough, so the issue with you would not likely be that the PC muscle is weak. Basically, if you can stop the flow of urine mid-stream the PC muscle is strong enough. Certainly those muscles can become tired from continuous and repeated contractions, and 20 minutes is plenty long enough for even well toned muscles to become tired out. Try resting the PC muscle on and off in your practice if you want to pleasure yourself longer than the time it takes before you tire. Gradually you will be able to extend that time longer and longer. To rest the PC muscle does not mean that you must cease pleasuring yourself while you rest, but be vigilant not to allow your excitement to build too fast.
 

Eventually you will get to the point, when your body “gets it” where you will be able to move the energy wherever you place your attention, and do this without any physical squeezing at all, but this is a high level of mastery. It takes many, many, many repetitions before your body catches up to your knowledge, in other words your knowing mentally what to do and what can be done, will precede your actual skill at being able to do it. Successfully moving the energy typically takes months and sometimes years of practice, not just one week.


Your difficulty getting the erection back is undoubtedly because you are trying too hard, better to let the erection happen rather than trying to make it happen, surrender is

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I hadn’t had sex in 7 years and when I did the first time I had a small amount of blood. The second time a week later, there was a lot of blood evidently during and after, but tapered to nothing the next day.  I am worried about this.  Could u please answer?  Thank you.

 
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There can be any number of reasons why you are experiencing vaginal bleeding after intercourse.


You don't say how old you are, but if you are menopausal and haven't had intercourse or vaginal penetration for 7 years it could simply be a matter of vaginal tissues becoming thin and dry and easily damaged (especially if intercourse is vigorous and prolonged). Make sure you are very well-lubricated for intercourse. There are many good quality organic lubricants available to add to your own body's natural lubricant, I suggest brands like Pink Silicone, JO Women, Capotain's, Hathor.
 

Also, if you haven't been doing them, start doing PC squeezes (Kegel) exercises every day, no matter what your age. They help keep vaginal muscles and tissues supple and strong. See below for instructions, in case you aren't sure how to do them.
 

You might also want to start using a vaginal exerciser. These are objects such as egg-shapes, wand shapes that are inserted into the vagina and used to help your vagina stay strong and healthy and used to penetration (or become so). To give you an idea, you can see a selection of these at this great women's shop Good For Her.
 

Besides lack of use and/or aging, you could have other physical causes for the bleeding, such as polyps. I'd suggest you see a doctor for a gynecological exam right away.
 

I wish you all the best and hope you're enjoying your rediscovered sexual life. There's an article we've written about women and orgasm that might interest you   as well as an ebook on the same subject

 

The PC Pump

The pelvic floor muscles surround the anus, genitals, and urethra and provide support for the reproductive organs.


The PC or pubococcygeous muscle (pronounced pew-bo-cox-e-g-us) is part of this muscle group. At first when you are practicing the PC Pump you may involuntarily contract the abdominal muscles and the anus, too, because you are unable to differentiate between the muscles. But with practice you can detect and isolate the PC muscle while allowing other muscles to stay relaxed. You will be able to isolate and move the many different muscles within your entire genital area.  Keeping all the muscles surrounding your internal organs toned and tight helps prevent fallen organs. It helps relax you. Practicing it while making love it will greatly heighten sensation for both you and your partner.

 

Pulsing:


1.Inhale, contracting the PC muscle, keeping the rest of your body relaxed, especially your shoulders.

2.As you hold your breath, relax and then tighten the PC muscle in quick, short pulsations.

3.Exhale and relax the PC muscle.

4.Repeat for several minutes using your natural rhythm of breathing, so that you get a feeling that your muscles are fluttering. Do this 25-30 times a day and work up to 200 per day.


Pumping:


1.Tighten the PC muscle as you inhale and hold for the count of six seconds.

2.Exhale, relax the PC muscle and gently bear down.

3.Repeat this sequence for several minutes.


 

The Elevator:
 

This exercise includes more of the muscles in the whole muscle group.

1.While sitting or lying on your back, take a deep breath and pretend you are riding an elevator.

2.Start in at the bottom floor with an anal contraction, move forward along the muscles, tightening up individual  muscles until you reach the “top” floor.

3.Then gradually relax the muscles, “floor by floor”, until you return to the bottom floor.

4.Repeat this trip 6 times, 3 times a day.

 

As with any exercise we need to develop a regular habit of giving our PC muscles a work-out. So to begin with, consciously set aside a time of day to do these: in the morning as you shower, on the bus as you travel to school or work, as part of your regular exercise routine (if you have one). Soon it will be something you’ll automatically begin to do anytime. You can do these anywhere and no one can tell!

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My problem is my sperm is go down before doing sexual activities. So how can I take a control?

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I am not sure I understand your question. I think you are saying that you ejaculate even before intercourse, which would make intercourse impossible.

There are 2 free articles we (Al Link and Pala Copeland) have written that give detailed instructions for learning ejaculation mastery, which would enable you to last longer before ejaculating.


Voluntary Ejaculation

 
Simple Techniques for Mastering Ejaculation


 You can find even more detailed instruction in our eBook Voluntary Ejaculation and Male Sexual Mastery.

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