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It is not unheard of, but somewhat unusual for any woman not to like receiving oral sex. So I hope this information boosts your confidence in trying oral sex with your wife. Almost certainly she will like this aspect of lovemaking.


Of course, some skill on your part would be helpful, so you may want to consult a video or two showing you how to perform

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It would be unusual for a woman to pee while she is being fingered vaginally, unless she specifically wanted to do so.

 
But it may not actually be pee. Sometimes a woman will ejaculate while the G-spot or other areas inside the vaginal canal are being stimulated with fingers, penis or dildo. The ejaculation fluid is not urine, but it is excreted through the urethra in the same way as urine. Ejaculate fluid is relatively odorless and tasteless, unlike urine which tends to have a strong taste and odor. Also, ejaculate fluid dries without leaving a mark on the sheets, again unlike urine which can leave a very noticeable yellow coloring after drying.


If it really is urine in your case, this would probably be evidence of weak Pubococcygeus muscles. You can strengthen these muscles by doing PC squeezes, sometimes referred to as Kegels. Squeeze as if you were stopping the flow of urine in midstream. Hold the squeeze for approximately 7-8 seconds and over the course of say two weeks build up to doing about 100 squeezes per day. This will strengthen these muscles to the point where it should be possible for you to avoid peeing during vaginal stimulation.

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1.  Ask for what you want. There is no need to compromise on what you need and want sexually. Depending upon how important those needs are (for example receiving oral sex from him), if he can't or won't help you be fulfilled sexually in the ways you desire, then move on to find a new partner.

2.  I would assume you have wounded him with any offhand comments about his penis size. Men are typically super sensitive to any such remarks, and some men find it impossible to forget or forgive. Go to any lengths to help him feel good about his penis (letting him know how much you love, admire and adore it—for example by giving him good head), to overcome any feelings of inadequacy, and performance anxiety (almost certainly this is why he might be hesitant to have sexual intercourse with you). But you must be very tactful and considerate of any sensitivity he already has and just bringing it up again could actually make things worse. So be very respectful and creative in how you do try to repair any damage to his masculine self esteem he may already have perceived.

3.  By all means please him orally if you can bring yourself to enjoy it. Learning to enjoy giving him oral sex is probably the single most important thing you can do to salvage and repair the current situation.

4.  Ignoring this and hoping it will just go away is the worst thing you could do; definitely not recommended as a viable strategy for you to follow.

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Be careful and attentive to your partners response, but definitely give the ring some attention, for example with tugs, pushes and pulls using your tongue and lips.

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Your lovemaking has become far too mechanical and almost totally goal oriented. Too mechanical means you have learned some good moves which enable you to come to orgasm at the same instant, but this is merely sexual technique. The goal orientation is trying to get to simultaneous orgasm, as if that is all the lovemaking was for. Essentially your lovemaking is now a simple business transaction exchange; “you do this for me and I’ll do that for you.” There is not much room for love and affection in such a transaction.


Drop the goal of getting to orgasm and shift to a pleasure orientation. Focus on giving and receiving pleasure as an expression of your love and affection for each other in the now moment. Otherwise, it is only going to be more of the same, which is great orgasms together, but ending with both of you feeling used, abused, and neglected, with a big hole in the middle of your heart. The only way to replace the hole in your heart is to put a giggle there. What will put a giggle there is when you feel respected, cared for, adored, appreciated and loved.


What brings those wonderful qualities into lovemaking is the foreplay and afterplay, which always includes intimate conversation in which you acknowledge each other, complement each other, express your appreciation for the things you admire about each other, remember past things you did together when you were feeling in love, and planning future things you will do together as lovers enjoying each other’s company as you go through life and grow old together.
 

Make an effort to give and receive non-sexual affection (including non-sexual touching) and then bring that quality of caring for each other into your lovemaking.

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I suggest you drop the goal orientation of getting to orgasm. Replace it with a pleasure orientation; mutually giving and receiving pleasure, always with your full attention in the now moment so every touch, every breath, every contact of your eyes is significant, full, rich, enough. With the goal orientation all of these touches and contacts are reduced to being merely means to an end, only of value to get somewhere else; hence they become devoid of the pleasure they are otherwise naturally saturated with.


Furthermore, I suggest you explore separating orgasm and ejaculation. Learn how to work consciously with your hot sexual energy, to cultivate it, move it and share it with your lover. It is possible to have orgasms, many  of them, none of which needs to be accompanied by ejaculation.


Here are two free articles you can study to begin this practice.

Voluntary Ejaculation

Simple Techniques for Mastering Ejaculation


We also offer a more detailed electronic book with full instructions.

Voluntary Ejaculation and Male Multiple Orgasms eBook

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I try to give my girlfriend oral stimulation but she turns me away, Why is that? She is clean down there and it doesn’t smell weird, she just says that she feels weird. Any insight?

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Many women feel embarrassed or ashamed about their genitals. Most of us have gotten the message that our vaginas are smelly, dirty, and ugly. Some of us have gotten past that feeling, others haven't.


Some suggestions:

Talk to her about her feelings, ask her if she can let you know why she feels "weird".


Reassure her that you think she is lovely, sexy, and desirable — in every part of her body and mind and that she'll still be a "good person" if she allows herself to enjoy oral sex.


Tell her that for most women, one of the easiest ways to come to orgasm is by gentle stimulation of the clitoris with the tongue. The tongue is ideally suited to bring the clitoris pleasure because of its moisture, flexibility and texture


Tell her also that there are chemical attractants in male and female animals (including human beings) called pheromones. Although they aren't actually odors, we do register these pheromones through our noses. Most of women's pheromones (called copulins) are produced in the vagina. So let her know that it is very natural for you to want to have your face there at her vagina — that's how you pick up her unique feminine aroma.


Ask her if she would let you explore her vagina with loving care and respect — with gentle looks and touches.
 

Get a copy of the "Vagina Monologues" by Eve Ensler and watch it together. It will help you both understand how women feel about this sacred part of their bodies.
 

Read this article about "Freeing Women's Orgasm" — it will give you both tips for pleasure.
 

You are to be commended for helping her learn to love her body and to receive pleasure from it. She may continue to be shy for a while, but once you help her get past it she'll be very happy!

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Is licking pussy necessary in sex?

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We can only speculate about this, and of course each man and woman will have their unique preference and attitude about swallowing semen.

Since semen comes from men, it would seem more likely that they might not mind swallowing something that they themselves create within their own body. This would almost certainly be true for men with a strong tendency to homosexuality. By contrast, men with a strong tendency to heterosexuality would likely find the idea of swallowing semen repugnant. Women will be somewhere in between these two positions, partly dependent upon previous experience and partly dependent upon beliefs, which in turn may come out of interpretations of the meaning of previous experiences and access to factual information and knowledge (which may or may not be accurate information).

A person’s attitude about this is, like with most other things, powerfully influenced by past experiences. If a anyone, man or woman, has had a negative or traumatic experience involving the penis and ejaculate in the mouth, this will usually result in that person being reluctant to swallow. If the experience has been positive the chances are they will willingly swallow and probably enjoy it. Another factor, is the knowledge or lack of knowledge about the semen itself, e.g., is it clean, is it safe, is it nutritious, does it have emotional, energetic or spiritual value?

The answer to all of these questions is yes. Semen is clean, safe, nutritious, and it carries emotional, energetic and spiritual value. All of the best of a man, energetically, goes into the production of his semen. This is a biological imperative directly relevant to survival of the species in reproduction. The semen is rich in nutritional value, vitamins, minerals and enzymes. It carries the essence of the life force, necessary for reproduction.

Also, this is a situation in which the beliefs and assumptions of the individual largely determine the spiritual significance of it. You can make it of high positive value or something threatening, dirty and disgusting. So for each person it will be exactly what they make it to be.