I masturbate around 3-4 times a week. I’ve got a girlfriend and we do have sex like every 2-3 weeks.and she does satisfy me alot. Don’t know why I still need to masturbate? My penis is a bit bent towards the left as well. Is this coz i masturbate? I also feel my penis size is not great but my girlfriend loves it and feels that it is massive. It’s about 5-6 inches
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Your penis size is in the normal range, but it always looks smaller when looking down at your own penis. Look at it in a mirror to get a better impression. What matters is that your lady is happy with it and you know how to use it to make her happy.
Your frequency of lovemaking is pretty low. Since you mention this in the context of talking about masturbation, I am assuming that you
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I really could you your advice. I'm stuck, and not feeling worthy right now, especially when he has helped me open up my goddess in me. I want to help him. I've tried to discuss this once only that I do understand because of loneliness I'm just worried. I'm very frustrated, also sad, but I am very much in love with my boyfriend. I'm 49 years old and my partner is 50… He has not been in very many long term relationships, longest one has been 8 months; for myself I was married for many years then divorced because of a unhealthy relationship. My second relationship lasted almost 10 years then my boyfriend died in 2006. I met my new man in April of this year. we have great chemistry, laughing, spirituality, cry together, loving, enjoy Tantra which he introduced me to.
We love the intimacy it brings us. I could go on, but I need to ask this question. He told me he used to masturbate allot, and give himself many orgasms. That's cool, I have too. But I think he is addicted to masturbating. I asked him if he still does and he was open and honest about it. He says not anymore, I truly want to believe him but research from what little I found was that a man gets a high from doing it himself, he has let himself go into me once after 6 months the other times we go a very long time making love because of the Tantra we can both stop the ejaculation process (I Know that's great) but he can't ejaculate
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Dear Al and Pala,
I'm a 16-year-old male and I started masturbating when I was ten. The first time I masturbated, semen did come out of my penis (a lot of it) and every time I masturbated, I would be able to achieve multiple and wet orgasms with no weakening of my erection and apparently no refractory period.
I never knew the whole concept of a refractory period existed until relatively recently when I became baffled at why premature ejaculation was such a problem in sex (didn't know about the refractory period). After researching, I discovered that interval existed for men in which a man cannot ejaculate again immediately after ejaculating.
I can have multiple ejaculations accompanied by orgasms numbering between 3-7 ejaculations/orgasms depending on the hiatus from when I last masturbated.
The ejaculations would decline in wetness from the first to second and so on… First being the wettest and most "explosive" and the remainder being relatively dry though with ejaculation characterized by a throbbing penis and everything consistent with a typical ejaculation except with little to no semen. (The last orgasm/ejaculation would have little semen and the semen would be more clear.)
I've tried researching for info on the web but I can’t find anything useful.
How common is this condition of having an apparently nonexistent refractory period and what are the advantages and drawbacks of this "symptom". Any advice or cautions? Background information for this condition would be greatly appreciated.
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Many men diligently practice for years to be able to do what you are describing happens without any effort at all. Be delighted with such a wonderful gift.
Tantric and Taoist sacred sexuality practices both emphasize delaying ejaculation for long periods of time, e.g., days, weeks and months between ejaculations, or at the extreme no ejaculation ever. We do not recommend this extreme position.
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Not to take away from the joy of sex, but health wise, in medical terms how often should a man at age 27 experience sex and or self satisfy?
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A male age 27 is young enough that unless there is some existing health challenge, he can engage in sexual acts as often as he wants to. The question of ejaculation is interesting for all males to consider. It would be a great advantage for a young male to begin learning how to delay the ejaculation response, cultivate a high sexual energy charge, and circulate that energy up through the body rather than release it with an ordinary ejaculation. This makes possible orgasm without ejaculation, and multiple orgasms. Accumulating this energy and working with it consciously can yield a significant competitive advantage (in sport, art, business, etc.) to any male who masters it.
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How should I prepare for first time masturbating?
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Masturbation Ceremony for Women
If you haven’t already done so, take yourself on the Looking At Yourself through the Eyes of a Lover tour. Arrange a loving space for yourself—soft lighting, comfortable pillows, sensuous music, aromatic scents, and beautiful objects. Make sure you will not be disturbed for at least an hour. This is very important because getting out of your mind and into your body is a key to opening up to full sexual pleasure. If you are worried about being interrupted you won’t be able to let go into your play.
Approach your loving from the outside in—start with delicate strokes of your arms, face, neck, and thighs. Use your fingertips, a feather, and a piece of silk to lightly tantalize your tender skin. If it helps to arouse you, begin your self-loving with an erotic fantasy. But once you are turned on, let the fantasy go and focus on what is happening in your body. Remember, to fly free in sexual bliss you need to leave your “daily mind” behind.
Begin to massage your breasts, try a light touch with large circles—counterclockwise then clockwise and gradually increase the pressure. Move slowly in toward your nipples. Experiment with tweaking them, pulling them, gentling circling them until they are stiff and tingling. You may feel a direct line of heat from your breasts down to your genitals.
Trail one hand down across the flesh of your belly, reveling in the softness of your skin, its warmth and sensitivity. Feel your pulse racing beneath its surface. Flutter your hand
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I want to squirt but only ooze. Is there anything I can do?
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One possibility is that you are ejaculating too frequently for your body to recover fully and prepare for the next one. Experiment with delaying ejaculation for several days, perhaps even a week, to see if this changes things for you. Typically, fewer ejaculations results in more forceful (i.e., squirting) ejaculations.
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My boyfriend and I are REALLY feeling sexually charged and don't want to have sex yet. Is it ok to French kiss and sleep together or is that way out of range for our age (13)?
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What you do in your sexual exploration has to depend on your emotional maturity as well as your physical desire. You are wise to be cautious. Don't put yourself in any situation that can lead to going farther than you want. Before you do anything sexually, ask yourself if every part of you–your mind, your heart, your spirit, as well as your body–feels that this is the right thing to do.
My suggestion for relieving sexual tension is self-pleasuring, masturbation (on your own, not together). This private act is very normal and can help you learn about your sexual arousal as well as release that high sexual charge that can lead you too far before you are ready.
I wish you great joy in your life and in your awakening sexuality. Take your time.
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Greetings! I am from Hyderabad , India, aged 28 years, unmarried guy. I have a problem. I am masturbating since 8 years on an average 4 times a week to the age of 21. Now I feel my penis has became narrow in the base and the penis size is drastically reduced. The girth and length were reduced and even if I have an erection I can’t last long. The erect penis size is only 10 cm. I am very frustrated and worrying a lot on this bad masturbating habit. My penis has also been bent to the left side with the habit of right hand masturbation. I am getting married in the coming year.
Sir, I have lot of concerns on masturbation . You are contributing a lot to sexual medicine and health for humans. That’s why I have lot of belief on you. Why do doctors say that masturbation never reduces size of penis, weak erection and it is a healthy habit. See in my case I lost penis hardness which I had before.
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It would be rare for someone to injure his penis during masturbation, but it is possible. Here are a couple of considerations.
If you were extremely rough with yourself, you could cause physical damage to the erectile tissue meaning that the tissue could no longer handle a change in blood supply, could no longer hold the blood intact for erection. Another scenario could be that you maintained the erection for too long. It is generally understood that keeping an erection over 2 hours can possibly cause damage to the erectile tissue.
Once this damage is inflicted, there is no reversal, no recovery. The penis then will, during erection, be misshapen, crooked, and not as hard as before the damage. In extreme cases no erection at all would be possible.
Consult your physician as soon as possible to have your penis checked for damage and possible therapy.
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What is masturbation and how do I do it?
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A great resource for finding out about masturbation is sexuality.org
Here is their search page, so you can easily find what you are looking for.
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Also, our membership website, Sexy Spiritual Relationships, in cooperation with The New School of Erotic Touch offers a huge selection of sex education videos, downloadable or in streaming format. All of these videos offer sexually explicit instruction and demonstration of techniques.
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My boyfriend doesn't know how to give me an orgasm yet but I still love the way he plays with my body. Lately, I learned how to masturbate. I loved it and it is as if I cannot live a day without doing it. I wanted to let my boyfriend see me doing it but I don't have that confidence yet. For me, masturbating is a way for relieving stress. I have watched a few sex videos where a woman masturbated with a lot of juice coming out from her. In my case, I am satisfied but there was only a little juice. Is that normal? Why others masturbate just like when you make an orange juice? I mean its like squeezing like an orange.
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There are many ways to masturbate (make love to oneself) just as there are many ways to make love with another.
Through self-pleasuring (masturbation) and through lovemaking with a partner women can learn to have many types of orgasms. Orgasms can be experienced not only in the genitals (clitoris and inside the vagina, like the g-spot) but also throughout the body (breasts, earlobes, and so on).
Self-pleasuring and partner lovemaking can bring not only great physical pleasure but also can bring great emotional connection and spiritual awakening.
Sexual desire is a very powerful force. Masturbation can be a way to work with your sexual energy, not just a as a tension release.
You can find lots of good information about women and orgasm in this free article "Freeing the Female Orgasm" which we wrote originally for Urban Male Magazine.
Our ebook "Awakening Women's Orgasm" ($9.95) goes into much more detail, for both you and your boyfriend. You can find out more about it here.
I wish you much joy as you explore your sexual awakening.
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