I am 29 years old. I am getting married shortly.

I am used to masturbation regularly since my 1st year of College. Whenever I see any scene of kissing or any semi nude photograph, etc., I used to get erection, and in night when the same scene comes on my mind, I used to masturbate. It used to take lot of time to ejaculate. But now since a year or so, such scenes are not making my penis to get erect, and if at all, it lasts for a very short period. In a very short time of erection, semen gets ejaculated.


Once while travelling in bus, it was full, i was sitting in the door, one person( male only) was sitting facing me, on foot board. it was night. He started touching my groin area occasionally, and with that my penis started to get erect. When he touched 4th or 5th time, I just avoided it, by holding that part of my pants with my hands, but as soon as I held it, semen came out. Why so fast is this happening? After marriage, will I be able to do justice to my wife? How can I get an erection for long time? I feel that my penis becomes bit soft in 2-3 minutes after it gets erected.
 

I’m in a relatively new relationship with a 45 year old man who wants sex all the time.  He said he would be happy if he could get it at least twice a day.  If he doesn’t get it he definitely is unhappy and has even gone as far as being angry at times thinking I led him to believe we would have sex and it didn’t happen.  He is recently divorced and said sex was an issue during the marriage – he wanted it more than she did. I think our sexual relationship is pretty normal; three to four times a week of fun satisfying sex.  But I don’t want it every day, and no matter how much I talk to him about it and give him what I feel are valid reasons – mood, timing, sore, even me having the flu wasn’t a deterrent – I actually think he was disappointed I was sick. He’s a nice guy but I feel sometimes he’s acting like a spoiled little boy.  We’ve had some serious conversations about this, as well as conversations about his jealousy.  Is there hope that he will chill out?  Is there language I can use to help him understand my position?  I’m about at the point where I want to say, “go out and find someone else who wants it as much as you do and leave me alone!”

I’m 24 years with 3 kids. My sex life with my husband its not to good. He's a kind of man who wants to have sex every night, but by the end of the day I’m so tired and with a big headache and don’t feel like having sex.  The only thing I want to do at night is get to bed, get some sleep and get ready for the next day. I want to be the same and have sex with him every night. I want some answers or any tips to my question.

It will be almost two years since I met this gentleman. He is two years younger than me. He is 60. We first started out talking on the phone, hours at a time, met and had at home dinners, and then started an intimate relationship which was good. We were open with what we wanted with making love, open to new ideas, read your sites and others for articles. Here is the problem. I was seeing him while he was still separated from his wife. She passed away 9 months ago, and since he has given me a cold shoulder. Not answering my phone messages, etc., even though prior to her death I was supportive to him and was there for him with all the problems surrounding family issues about her illness and where to place her while ill, etc. He made me feel like he just dropped me off the face of the earth. Probably had guilt feelings about seeing me while still married, etc., but I wasn't the first woman he was seeing. He was separated from her for years. Just the last woman he was seeing before and after her passing so I took the brunt of the guilt. I suppose. Now, lately we started e-mailing each other. Small stuff and he started sending me stuff from your site again as well as other sites. He asks if I have learned anything,( wondering if I read any of it), not implying I am not good in bed because we did satisfy each other and we always talked about learning more so I took that remark as meaning did I learn more. Do you think this is his way of trying to get back with me? Why send me this stuff if that were not the case? Or am I drawing at straws. He seems like he may have low self esteem and a little shy as well.

My husband was working in A cruise ship and I’m having this feeling that he's with somebody there because when were having sex I can’t feel that he has that same love still for me. I don’t know how to figure things out. It’s the same way we done our thing but I’m feeling there's always something missing and I don’t know if I’m just paranoid or insecure.

My wife and I have been married for 10 years.  Sex has never been very good between us. It was better in the beginning now it's non-existent.  Maybe 1 time a month and then it's as quick as possible.  My wife is very sexy and I want to have sex every day but I know she doesn't like it so I don't even try.  She doesn't like any kind of foreplay just do it quick and be done, which makes me not want to do it.  I don't know what to do.  I have asked her if we can go to a therapist but she doesn't want to do that either.

My ex and I have decided to give each other another try. It’s been a long time since we broke up. He’s been married/divorced; I have never been married.  I have a 16 year old handicapped daughter. It’s been 2 years since I broke up with her dad. We lived together 9 months and he hurt me real bad. Now he’s my daughter's father and the type who will just show up or call. He wants me back even though he has a girlfriend. I have got where I don’t open the door, don’t want to, so he may storm off or maybe hit the wall. How do I tell my friend I'm starting a relationship with how he acts? He hasn't been around in 3 weeks, but i feel he will just show up again and then what do I do? Let him in and then pray he doesn't flip when i say I have moved on? I have another ex. We broke up as friends and now he sometimes spends the night, but he will be all right when I mention someone else. In other words both  my ex's can get on my nerves, one just worse than the other. I like Gino a lot and i do not want any drama. I don’t know how he may react because what my daughter's father did to me was real low and I have told Gina i was in a bad relationship and I feel I should not say anymore.

I am a 39 years old successful businessman. Four years ago I met a girl and fell deeply in love. Two years ago she got married to another guy through family fixed marriage. Shortly after her marriage, she told me that she still loved me and would like to continue our relationship. She promised that she will get a divorce. We have our secret affairs, and fell more deeply to each other. Until today, 2 years later, she is still married, and still talking about that divorce. I love her very much. I don't like that feeling of sharing her with another guy. She told me that she does not like her husband. There are no feelings and no love. They don't even have sex. I am having sleepless nights just thinking that they are sleeping together every night. What should  I do? Shall I wait or should we break? Please advice.

I am a married 30 year old woman. I have been with my husband for 8 years, married for 5 years and we have a 5 year old daughter. Our marriage has been on the rocks for about 2 years now. I am a housewife and I have been talking to this man online for over 8 months. He is also married and he has two amazing children. We both went online not hoping to fall in love with one another but just for someone to talk to; someone who can relate and understand one another. We have never met, but I know what he looks like and he thinks I am a nurse. I am not. He thinks the world of me and I think the world of him. We fell so head over heels for one another, and he told me yesterday that he told his wife that he wanted a divorce, and I told him I also wanted a divorce from my husband. I am not happy in my marriage. I am tired of the look I get from my husband; the look that wishes he was married to someone else. I hate that look I get from him. I feel like such a complete loser and failure when I am with my husband. This man make me feel so special and we have talked about getting married and a future together. He is studying to be a doctor and he assumes that I am this amazing woman which I am not. I have sent him pictures of women that he assumes are me which are not me. I don't know what I am going to do. He thinks I will be going there to see him in a few weeks and I am not. I don't want to lose this man. I love him sooooo much my heart aches for him. He talked to me without even knowing me, without even knowing what I looked like. He said in the beginning that he fell in love with my personality, but the more we talked as the days and months went by I can tell that he is so amazing, more than words can put into play, but in reality he knows nothing about the real me, only that I have a child, that I am married, and my name. And that I am head over heels in love with him. I don't know what to do. I love him I can't lose him.

My boyfriend of 2 years asked me to marry him. And I said yes, but I feel like i made a mistake. He's 21, with a child on the way (with his ex-girlfriend) and I’m 18 with a younger brother who I’m raising. My mother died of cancer 2 years ago, and my father I never knew because my mother was raped *conceived me* and my brother’s father left my mother when she told him she was pregnant. I really feel like it would be too much of a burden if we got married right now.