I masturbate around 3-4 times a week. I’ve got a girlfriend and we do have sex like every 2-3 weeks.and she does satisfy me alot. Don’t know why I still need to masturbate? My penis is a bit bent towards the left as well. Is this coz i masturbate? I also feel my penis size is not great but my girlfriend loves it and feels that it is massive. It’s about 5-6 inches
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Your penis size is in the normal range, but it always looks smaller when looking down at your own penis. Look at it in a mirror to get a better impression. What matters is that your lady is happy with it and you know how to use it to make her happy.
Your frequency of lovemaking is pretty low. Since you mention this in the context of talking about masturbation, I am assuming that you
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Kindly give instructions how i can make a long & strong penis.
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Here is an excellent new book with lots of exercise to try.
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I can orgasm fine by myself, but I have never been able to reach ejaculation with a partner. I enjoy sex completely, but obviously it puts a bit of a damper on things when I cannot fully climax. I am wondering why this is, and is this a common problem in men? I am 28 yrs. old and height/weight proportionate.
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This is relatively uncommon, but certainly there are many other men experiencing a similar situation. Typically, it is a problem with men who have relied primarily on masturbation to reach an ejaculatory climax, and particularly if they become dependent or even addicted to watching porn as the primary way they become aroused. If this is your situation, you may try to gradually wean yourself away from masturbating while watching porn, and save your arousal and juice for when you are with a partner.
Another point worth mentioning, is that there certainly is no requirement to come to an ejaculation. In fact most forms of sacred sexuality practice, including both Tantric and Taoist, place emphasis on delaying the ejaculation, including sometimes for weeks or even months at a time. Note, this does not mean you don’t have orgasms, but rather that you learn to work with the sexual energy to separate orgasm from ejaculation, so you can have orgasms without ejaculation, and can also have multiple orgasms. Most men (but certainly not all) find the experience of orgasm without ejaculation, to be far superior to a simple ejaculation.
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My penis is 4.6 inches and I’m 18 and I’m scared to have sex with my girlfriend even though she really wants to. Please help me. I wish I could make it bigger
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The average penis length is approximately 5-6 inches, so yours is only slightly shorter than average, but remember average means approximately half are below and half are above to arrive at that length. So you are certainly within a normal penis length range. I might also mention that your penis always looks shorter to yourself, because you are looking down at it from that particular angle. Furthermore, most women will tell you that it is not size that they care about (and if your woman really cares about that then I suggest you find a different woman. What really matters to the vast majority of women is how you use what you do have. The real challenge for you is not to change your penis size, a very difficult thing to do (perhaps impossible), but for you to learn the knowledge and skill to become a master lover. This is exactly what we teach men to do at our workshops and at our membership website. So stop worrying about your size and start learning how to be a great lover.
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Nowadays I’m not getting erection like the past, when in the age 16 or 17 I can get easily while even watching kissing scenes and hearing adult contents. Now I almost drinking liquor thrice a month and smoking cigars and chewing tobacco every day. I know my erectile dysfunction is due to these bad habits; am also obese. How can I overcome these?
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I don’t know what your age is now, but loss of erection can be very noticeable starting around the age of 45-55 even for a man who does not have a lot of bad habits. Lots of bad habits, medical complications, and dysfunctional thinking can cause a man to have erection difficulties at any age. Since you have admitted to a number of circumstances known to interfere with erections, that would be a good place to start in order to reverse the problem and regain full healthy erection response.
Here are my suggestions.
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I’m a 43 year old male and I find I am looking and wanting to be with another man. I don’t seem to be interested in women any more. Could you give me advice on safe sex with another man and any information you can. Does this mean I’m gay for wanting to be with men?
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Yes, you are gay.
The risk of AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases is high, so be very careful, but the same must be said for heterosexual sex of course.
Always wear a condom for anal penetration with your penis, and a latex or vinyl glove if using your fingers. Have your partner wear a condom if you are performing oral sex. If you do get sperm in your mouth, don't swallow it. Wash thoroughly after anal play.
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I am a 29 years old unmarried man. I’m going through an uncommon problem. I never involve with the sex to any opposite till now. I used to masturbate 9-10 times in the weak by watching sex movies or reading the book related to sex. Few days before I read in a book that thinking during the sex effects on you erection & causes impotency. From that day I feel problem in the erection during masturbation even I thinks during that time about my failures, where I was beaten by guys. I think & having erection problem now I’m thinking I masturbated a lot and I might fail during the sex. I’m beaten by a guy and it is not the sign of a true man. By this types of thought I’m thinking I will becoming impotent & life is going to be hell. Tell me how I get rid of this kind of problem & happiness come in life.
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The way you think about sex, ejaculation, erections, and yourself all affect your body's sexual response including particularly your erection.
You must catch yourself when you are thinking negatively or badly about yourself. Notice your self-talk. As soon as you find you are giving yourself negative messages inside your head, you must replace them with images and thoughts about the way you do want to be, not the way you fear you are.
Cut back on masturbation as much as possible or completely if you can. There is nothing wrong with masturbation, but if you are having erection problems, frequent ejaculation can cause this, so by avoiding ejaculations during masturbation you will have much greater sexual vigor and vitality when you make love with a woman.
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My age is 39 years and I am married. I am suffering from sex problems from a long time. The details are given below:
Sperm (very few), hand practice (from the age of 16 years and it continues after marriage also), small penis (Appx. 5 Inches- it is not enough for complete sex), bent left side in penis, penis is fat from front side and thin from backside, early discharge (only in 20 Seconds), no hardness in penis every time (very loose), when I am ready for sex my penis is hard and then I put on condom for sex before start intercourse the penis has become loose and I can’t have sex. Some liquid leaks from penis at the time of talking about sex, reading sexy books and seeing a blue film. Weakness after intercourse. I am very shameful in front of my life partner from a long time and my life is going onto divorce track.
So you are requested to help me and given a best and effective formula of medicine and oil for these all problems. I will be very thankful to you in life. Thanks- A patient
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Your condition is more serious than I could properly respond to in a short email message. The description of your condition reveals serious damage to the erectile tissues which hold blood during erection. I suggest you seek the help of a qualified physician immediately. Once the physical penis is properly diagnosed and the damage treated, then you can return with questions about ejaculation mastery, but your situations requires attention before we can suggest any practices regarding ejaculation mastery.
Here are a few additional comments.
Your penis is of average size. There is nothing wrong with a 5 inch penis; normally it would be quite sufficient for sexual intercourse, but in your case it is the malformation of the penis caused by the damage to the erectile tissues.
Weakness after intercourse is primarily caused by ejaculation, not intercourse. It may well have been some very rough handling during masturbation that has caused the damage to your penis (but this is speculation on my part and must be confirmed by a physician), and if your are frequently masturbating to include ejaculation, this would contribute to making it difficult to get erections during sex with your wife, and tiredness after sexual intercourse (including ejaculation). One thing to try immediately is to discontinue all masturbation, but most importantly stop having ejaculations during masturbation. This will enable you to regain some physical energy and sexual vitality.
In addition to this, make foreplay a much longer period of time (including everything leading up to but not including penetration – for example, approximately one hour of foreplay). If your wife is willing, have her massage your body, with particular attention to the large muscles of the legs (thighs), stomach, back and shoulders. This helps the muscles to relax and get blood and energy moving.
Start a regular practice of PC squeezing. This means squeeze the muscles of your genitals as if you were stopping the flow of urine midstream. Work up, over a period of say 2-3 weeks to doing about 100 squeezes per day, each squeeze lasting 5-7 seconds. Don’t try to squeeze as hard as you can, but be firm.
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Dear Al and Pala,
I'm a 16-year-old male and I started masturbating when I was ten. The first time I masturbated, semen did come out of my penis (a lot of it) and every time I masturbated, I would be able to achieve multiple and wet orgasms with no weakening of my erection and apparently no refractory period.
I never knew the whole concept of a refractory period existed until relatively recently when I became baffled at why premature ejaculation was such a problem in sex (didn't know about the refractory period). After researching, I discovered that interval existed for men in which a man cannot ejaculate again immediately after ejaculating.
I can have multiple ejaculations accompanied by orgasms numbering between 3-7 ejaculations/orgasms depending on the hiatus from when I last masturbated.
The ejaculations would decline in wetness from the first to second and so on… First being the wettest and most "explosive" and the remainder being relatively dry though with ejaculation characterized by a throbbing penis and everything consistent with a typical ejaculation except with little to no semen. (The last orgasm/ejaculation would have little semen and the semen would be more clear.)
I've tried researching for info on the web but I can’t find anything useful.
How common is this condition of having an apparently nonexistent refractory period and what are the advantages and drawbacks of this "symptom". Any advice or cautions? Background information for this condition would be greatly appreciated.
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Many men diligently practice for years to be able to do what you are describing happens without any effort at all. Be delighted with such a wonderful gift.
Tantric and Taoist sacred sexuality practices both emphasize delaying ejaculation for long periods of time, e.g., days, weeks and months between ejaculations, or at the extreme no ejaculation ever. We do not recommend this extreme position.
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Daily sex makes for healthier sperm
Yahoo News, June 30, 2009
"LONDON (Reuters) – Having sex every day improves the quality of men's sperm and is recommended for couples trying to conceive, according to new research.
Until now doctors have debated whether or not men should refrain from sex for a few days before attempting to conceive with their partner to improve the chance of pregnancy.
But a new study by Dr David Greening of Sydney IVF, an Australian center for infertility and in vitro fertilization (IVF) treatment, suggests abstinence is not the right approach.
He studied 118 men with above-average sperm DNA damage and found the quality of their sperm increased significantly after they were told to ejaculate daily for seven days."
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