September 2, 2008

I'm too embarrassed to ask him if he has a girlfriend

I met this really nice guy on the internet, and I have a huge crush on him. The problem is, I have no idea what his name is, where he lives, how old he is, and if he has  girlfriend. Whenever I ask him how old he is he doesn’t answer, and I’m too embarrassed to ask him if he has a girlfriend. What should I do?


 ANSWER

Press him for all relevant information. It is otherwise very risky and dangerous. Anyone can pose to be anything they want over the internet. If you do eventually arrange to meet, make sure it is in a safe public place with other people around, e.g., at a restaurant or busy mall.

 

Al Link and Pala Copeland

Sexy Spiritual Relationships

 

 

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August 15, 2008

4 Freedoms Integration Exercise (2): What's Good

 INTEGRATION EXERCISES
Exercises To Do On Your Own

 

WHAT’S GOOD?

Be careful what you pay attention to because you are going to get more of it. You can help people focus on what they do want by asking them the simple question, “What’s good?”

Time for Exercise: one minute

Properties Required: none

Steps:

1.The next time you greet someone, instead of usual greetings such as “How are you?” “How’s it going?” “What’s new?” ask “What’s good?”

2.Suggest to everyone you know that they start asking others this simple question.

 
Comments:

If you pay attention to how people use language, you will notice that they often phrase responses in negative terms. For example, if you ask someone, “How are you today?” the most frequent response seems to be “Not bad.” If you ask, “How is everything?” they might say, “It could be worse.” When people talk about what they want, they often mention what they don’t want. For example, “I sure hope I don’t get that flu going around,” or “I don’t want to be sick,” or “I don’t want to be poor,” or “I hope my husband is not fooling around on me.”


Generally your consciousness works to create more of what you pay attention to. When you pay attention to what you don’t want, there is a good chance you are going to get not less but more of it. So pay attention to what you do want. For example, “I want to be healthy,” or “I want to have lots of money,” or “I want a relationship based on trust and commitment.”

 

Excerpted from our new book Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms of Body, Mind, Heart and Soul, by Al Link and Pala Copeland, Llewellyn, 2007

Available at Amazon.com

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Also available as an eBook in pdf for Adobe Reader, prc for MobiPocket, or on CD.

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Check also at Amazon.com, Still Here: Embracing Aging, Changing, and Dying (Paperback) by Ram Dass

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June 30, 2008

I am in a committed, awesome relationship with a great lady.

I am in a committed, awesome relationship with a great lady.  We have been together almost two years.  She is open and honest, to a fault.  She has told me about several of her past relationships, in intimate detail.  To include exploits, places, acts, and even penis or scrotum size.  As our relationship travels through time, she has told me more and more, which at times contradicts earlier comments she has made, ie, her count for dating married men has grown to four from the first stated one.  Recently she showed me over a hundred pictures of her performing sex acts with men, in her previous relationships.  I am having some troubles coming to grips with all this and the fact she continues to push for details about my past expoits, which I am uncomfortable sharing.  I guess I don't want her to feel the doubt I am beginning to feel about this relationship and the direction it could take.  I do realize that neither of us were without previous partners in our lives before we met, however, I do not need to know all the details to compare myself to.

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June 11, 2008

Heart Freedom Exercise (19): Magic Wand

HEART FREEDOM EXERCISES
Exercises To Do Together

 

MAGIC WAND

Time for Exercise: five to 15 minutes

Properties Required: magic wand

Steps:

  1. Make a magic wand from materials you find around the home, anything simple or elaborate, but beautiful.

  2. Take turns with the wand.

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June 4, 2008

Are you almost finished?

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How do you stop the cycle of lousy sexual experiences that include pump stopping comments like "What are you doing?..Are you almost finished?…I'm not comfortable doing that"


Answer

Here is a simple sexual learning technique that can help get away from the scenario you describe.
 

A or B Game

Try two different versions of touch, intercourse, music, etc. Refer to one as A and one as B. Ask which (s)he likes best. This avoids the hurt when someone tells you

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June 3, 2008

Heart Freedom Exercise (16): We Belong Together (For Men)

 

Heart Freedom Exercises
Exercises To Do Together

 

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Time for Exercise: one hour

Properties Required: Buy a three-to-four foot (1.0–1.25 m) length of one inch (2.5 cm) diameter doweling or cut a section from the handle of an old implement. Gather together tidbits of colored string and construction paper, glue, earrings, jewelry, painted trinkets, small children’s toys, money (coins and bills), small figurines of people, animals or caricatures, etc.

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May 29, 2008

Heart Freedom Exercise (15): I’m Yours

 

Heart Freedom Exercises
Exercises To Do Together

 

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Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour

Properties Required: colored pens with washable ink suitable for writing on skin

Steps:
1.Take turns writing loving, sexy statements on your body and your lover’s body.

2.Read each other aloud “like a book.”

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