November 15, 2009

Is it normal to pee when you boyfriend is fingering you?

Is it normal to pee when you boyfriend is fingering you? I need to know and I can't ask anyone else!


ANSWER
 
It would be unusual for a woman to pee while she is being fingered vaginally, unless she specifically wanted to do so.

 
But it may not actually be pee. Sometimes a woman will ejaculate while the G-spot or other areas inside the vaginal canal are being stimulated with fingers, penis or dildo. The ejaculation fluid is not urine, but it is excreted through the urethra in the same way as urine. Ejaculate fluid is relatively odorless and tasteless, unlike urine which tends to have a strong taste and odor. Also, ejaculate fluid dries without leaving a mark on the sheets, again unlike urine which can leave a very noticeable yellow coloring after drying.


If it really is urine in your case, this would probably be evidence of weak Pubococcygeus muscles. You can strengthen these muscles by doing PC squeezes, sometimes referred to as Kegels. Squeeze as if you were stopping the flow of urine in midstream. Hold the squeeze for approximately 7-8 seconds and over the course of say two weeks build up to doing about 100 squeezes per day. This will strengthen these muscles to the point where it should be possible for you to avoid peeing during vaginal stimulation.

 

Al Link and Pala Copeland

 
 
 

 Image Source: www. flickr.com

 

 

Tags:

Popularity: 11% [?]

Spread the word

del.icio.us Digg Reddit Ask BlinkList blogmarks Blogg-Buzz Google Netscape Rojo Shadows Simpy Socializer Spurl StumbleUpon Technorati

Permalink • Print • Comment

February 27, 2009

Sex with him is causing this problem

I am currently involved with a guy who has a very large penis. It is between 8-10 inches long and 2.5 inches wide. I am wondering if having sex with him specifically rough sex can move or effect my IUD and cause problems with my bladder. After we have sex I experience stomach pains usually until a couple days later. I don't want to stop having sex with him but I think I might have to if sex with him is causing this problem.



ANSWER


Yes, rough sex with someone with a very large penis can affect you internally.


Here are some suggestions:

Make sure you are very aroused before you have intercourse, especially for deep penetration with strong thrusting. When a woman is very excited her vagina expands — it's quite elastic.


Try positions that don't give such deep penetration.

  •  When he's on top, keep your hips flat on the bed,  and your legs closer together.

  • Lying on your sides facing each other, or from behind, can also cut down on depth of penetration. If your legs are tight together he won't be able to go as deep inside you, but the pressure of your legs as his penis slides between them will give him lots of sensation along his length.

  • Use woman on top positions — that way you can control the speed, angle and depth of thrusts.

  • Experiment with different types of thrusting — it's not all about rapid, deep in and out. Try going slowly, try "screwing" (either of both of you circling your hips, try the shallow/deep thrusting technique explained below. Ask him to make the deep thrust a very slow one so that he doesn't hurt you.



Shallow/Deep Thrusts
 

The essence of this thrusting technique is to go nine shallow and one deep. The one deep thrust, besides varying sensory stimulation, forces the air out of the vagina. This creates a vacuum inside the vagina with the nine shallow thrusts which follow.


The man never withdraws his penis completely: this would break the vacuum seal. Rather, he hovers at the outermost inches of the vagina which are covered with a dense set of nerves. The nine shallow, one deep rhythm is delightful for a woman. The vacuum has tremendous effect: she feels empty then full, empty then full. Shallow thrusts stimulate the plexus of nerves by the G spot. This point connects a vast network of nerves in the sexual organs with the rest of her body.


It works well for men, because thrusting shallowly does not cause the same intensity as deep thrusting and consequently the man is able to resist ejaculation.

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
Tags:

Popularity: 3% [?]

Spread the word

del.icio.us Digg Reddit Ask BlinkList blogmarks Blogg-Buzz Google Netscape Rojo Shadows Simpy Socializer Spurl StumbleUpon Technorati

Permalink • Print • Comment

December 24, 2008

How do women ejaculate?

How do women ejaculate? Just as men do, by, expulsing semen out of their vagina?


ANSWER

Women ejaculate differently than men.

Stimulation of the G-spot (a sensitive area on the upper wall of the vagina, about 1 1/2 to 2 inches inside) can lead to an ejaculation. Although there is still some disagreement about it by doctors and scientists, it's generally accepted that there are a series of small glands in the spongy tissue there (para-urethral glands) which during sexual excitement produce a clear, milky fluid. Rubbing this area when you are highly excited can bring on an orgasm that's accompanied by fluid spurting out from the urethra. There can be a lot of fluid or only a little bit. It can taste slightly sweet or salty.


Sometimes women feel like they have to urinate as they are approaching G-spot orgasm. But the fluid that comes out during an ejaculatory orgasm is not urine.

 

 

 
 

 

Tags:

Popularity: 6% [?]

Spread the word

del.icio.us Digg Reddit Ask BlinkList blogmarks Blogg-Buzz Google Netscape Rojo Shadows Simpy Socializer Spurl StumbleUpon Technorati

Permalink • Print • Comment

November 28, 2008

I learned how to masturbate

My boyfriend doesn't know how to give me an orgasm yet but I still love the way he plays with my body. Lately, I learned how to masturbate. I loved it and it is as if I cannot live a day without doing it. I wanted to let my boyfriend see me doing it but I don't have that confidence yet. For me, masturbating is a way for relieving stress. I have watched a few sex videos where a woman masturbated with a lot of juice coming out from her. In my case, I am satisfied but there was only a little juice. Is that normal? Why others masturbate just like when you make an orange juice? I mean its like squeezing like an orange.

 

ANSWER

There are many ways to masturbate (make love to oneself) just as there are many ways to make love with another.

Through self-pleasuring (masturbation) and through lovemaking with a partner women can learn to have many types of orgasms. Orgasms can be experienced not only in the genitals (clitoris and inside the vagina, like the g-spot) but also throughout the body (breasts, earlobes, and so on).

Self-pleasuring and partner lovemaking can bring not only great physical pleasure but also can bring great emotional connection and spiritual awakening.

Sexual desire is a very powerful force. Masturbation can be a way to work with your sexual energy, not just a as a tension release.

You can find lots of good information about women and orgasm in this free article "Freeing the Female Orgasm" which we wrote originally for Urban Male Magazine.
 

Our ebook "Awakening Women's Orgasm" ($9.95) goes into much more detail, for both you and your boyfriend. You can find out more about it here.


I wish you much joy as you explore your sexual awakening.

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
Tags:

Popularity: 4% [?]

Spread the word

del.icio.us Digg Reddit Ask BlinkList blogmarks Blogg-Buzz Google Netscape Rojo Shadows Simpy Socializer Spurl StumbleUpon Technorati

Permalink • Print • Comment

October 16, 2008

I don’t know where her G-spot is

I seem to cum pretty quick as I get pretty turned on. Is there anything I could to do to make myself go for a while?

 

Free Articles

“Voluntary Ejaculation”


“Simple Techniques for Mastering Ejaculation”


eBook

“Voluntary Ejaculation and Male Multiple Orgasms”

 

Sometimes it hurts her after a while so she says she likes that its not to long.


She needs better lubrication. Try a good water-based or silicone-based lube. Make sure she has a clitoral orgasm before starting any kind of vaginal penetration. Emphasize (increase) foreplay and deemphasize (decrease) intercourse.

 
Free Article

 “Tantra Sacred Loving Step by Step”


Books

 
28 Days to Ecstasy for Couples: Tantra Step By Step

More on I don’t know where her G-spot isTags:

Popularity: 5% [?]

Spread the word

del.icio.us Digg Reddit Ask BlinkList blogmarks Blogg-Buzz Google Netscape Rojo Shadows Simpy Socializer Spurl StumbleUpon Technorati

Permalink • Print • Comment

December 5, 2007

It spoils her orgasm

"At times my partner will feel pain as she is about to orgasm when the G-spot is being stimulated by my fingers. It spoils her orgasm. She has never experienced an ejaculation. She says that it is not my fingers that cause the problem, it is the intensity that becomes painful, and leads nowhere. My partner orgasms quickly and easily having intercourse. We would appreciate any directions you may have."
More on It spoils her orgasmTags:

Popularity: 5% [?]

Spread the word

del.icio.us Digg Reddit Ask BlinkList blogmarks Blogg-Buzz Google Netscape Rojo Shadows Simpy Socializer Spurl StumbleUpon Technorati

Permalink • Print • Comment

November 7, 2007

Do you think I'm wrong or she is?

 
 
    What I am still really confused on, like I'm sure almost every male, is about the g-spot.  I believe what I was touching was just the clitoris, even though I think she thought it was her g-spot. It is up at the top of the lips, but in just a little bit, maybe a 1/2 inch but not more than an inch.  Do you think I'm wrong or she is? 
More on Do you think I'm wrong or she is?Tags:

Popularity: 5% [?]

Spread the word

del.icio.us Digg Reddit Ask BlinkList blogmarks Blogg-Buzz Google Netscape Rojo Shadows Simpy Socializer Spurl StumbleUpon Technorati

Permalink • Print • 1 Comment

July 12, 2007

Kama Sutra Sex Position Face to Face – “One Crutch”

Kama Sutra Sex Position: Face to Face – “One Crutch”
 
 
PositionFToF4_1.jpg
 
The crutch position is excellent for rubbing the lingam directly against the clitoris, while at the same time penetration may caress the G-spot for a double delight. This position is good when the lingam is small and the yoni is large.

 

Excerpted from our Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions eBook.

 
4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra

 
Tags:

Popularity: 15% [?]

Spread the word

del.icio.us Digg Reddit Ask BlinkList blogmarks Blogg-Buzz Google Netscape Rojo Shadows Simpy Socializer Spurl StumbleUpon Technorati

Permalink • Print • Comment

July 10, 2007

Kama Sutra Sex Position Face to Face – “The Lift” (variation – full)

Kama Sutra Sex Position Face to Face – “The Lift” (variation – full)

PositionFToF5.jpg

More on Kama Sutra Sex Position Face to Face – “The Lift” (variation – full)Tags:

Popularity: 27% [?]

Spread the word

del.icio.us Digg Reddit Ask BlinkList blogmarks Blogg-Buzz Google Netscape Rojo Shadows Simpy Socializer Spurl StumbleUpon Technorati

Permalink • Print • Comment

May 8, 2007

Kama Sutra Sexual Intercourse Positions - Woman On Top Varaiations

Kama Sutra Sexual Intercourse Positions

Woman On Top Variations

The lover on top is in a dominant position. It is most desirable that in Tantric sacred lovemaking the man and woman take turns initiating and receiving. In relationships where one or the other partner is particularly dominant, an excellent way to “give up the lead” is to allow the lover who is normally less active and more passive, to assume the top position (at least sometimes).

Woman on Top – “Crouching Tigress” (variation – full front saddle ride)

 

 PositionWOnT2.jpg

“If long lovemaking exhausts you before your lover has reached her orgasm, you should allow her to roll you over on your back and sit astride you, taking initiative.”

 

Woman on Top – “Crouching Tigress” (variation - partial side-saddle ride)

 PositionFToF2.jpg

 

“She cups and lifts her buttocks with her palms, spreads wide her thighs, and digs in her heels besides her hips, while you caress her breasts.”

 
This position is particularly desirable if the woman has a small yoni and the man has a large lingam. Also, because the woman is on top she can select exactly the right depth, speed and angle of penetration, giving maximum stimulation to her G-Spot, which can bring about deep vaginal or ejaculatory orgasms.

 This material is excerpted from our Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions eBook by Al Link and Pala Copeland

Quotes from The Love Teachings of Kama Sutra: With Extracts from Koka Shastra, Ananga Ranga and Other Famous Indian Works on Love, by Vatsyayana, Translated by Indra Sinha

 

Al Link and Pala Copeland

NEXT POST-Kama Sutra Sexual Intercourse Positions - Woman On Top - "Sleeping Dragon"

 

 

Tags:

Popularity: 46% [?]

Spread the word

del.icio.us Digg Reddit Ask BlinkList blogmarks Blogg-Buzz Google Netscape Rojo Shadows Simpy Socializer Spurl StumbleUpon Technorati

Permalink • Print • Comment