I never use to have a problem in the past with serious relationships in getting a man to come with oral sex. My boyfriend and I are happily together for over 2½ years. He never like oral until I did it to him because a former girlfriend bit him.
My problem is that I can never get him to come, ever, in all this time we have been together, but he loves oral anyway because of me. He doesn't seem to care because we please each other in other ways. So any suggestions?
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Let go of any concern with whether or not your man ejaculates during fellatio. Having a goal of ejaculation is one of the ways to interfere with the natural organic ejaculatory response. Ironically, when you drop the performance expectation of getting to the ejaculation, you will likely discover that he is able to ejaculate more easily, if he wants to.
Beware if you have a belief or assumption that to really please him and satisfy him, he must ejaculate. On the contrary, what most men want is to stay at the height of pleasure longer, not end it with an ejaculation.
Once a man learns about cultivating and moving his hot sexual energy up through his body, he can have multiple orgasms without ejaculating at all. It would be better for your man to learn that than to figure out how to ejaculate, which only makes him tired in exchange for a few seconds of pleasure. But orgasms without ejaculation do not make you tired, and the man does not lose his erection, so the lovemaking can be extended for longer periods of time, so he is not giving anything up by not ejaculating. On the contrary he will gain a great deal more pleasure than he gives up.
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I have a question about the PC pump exercise. I understand doing it after you feel the urge of ejaculation starting, while you are still and working on breathing deeply. It works. Is it something you can do during intercourse to stop the urge to ejaculate from developing. this wasn't clear in the book.
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"What are the different kinds of orgasm for women? Can a woman ejaculate?"
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This information is from our eBook "Awakening Women's Orgasm". It gives lots and lots of info for women and their partners on how to help women open up sexually.
Women can experience any number of many types of orgasm: clitoral orgasms, vaginal orgasms, ejaculatory orgasms, whole body orgasms, energy orgasms. Orgasms come in varying degrees of intensity, physical focus and duration. They can be a pleasurable little tingle or a body/mind/soul explosion. Some last for seconds, others minutes or even hours. While often stemming from genital stimulation, orgasms need not be confined to the genitals alone. Indeed as the following list of some types of orgasm shows—orgasms are available all over!
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"Is there any danger in consuming (swallowing) the secretions released during lovemaking, such as the male and female ejaculate and the menstrual blood?"
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Swallowing the fluids secreted by the penis and vagina during lovemaking (male and female ejaculate, and menstrual blood) would not normally be dangerous, and in fact may have important benefits. There is a long history of consuming the bodily secretions from sexual activity to elevate the level of energy and vitality, to boost the immune system, and to awaken the higher spiritual centers. Also, many lovers find it a noticeable erotic turn on to consume the fluids. Tantra practitioners often create sensual/sexual ceremonies and rituals that include consuming the erotic fluids.
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