I like too much anal sex and group sex with my wife, but she doesn’t. What should I do?

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Anal sex is a not to everyone’s liking, nor is group sex. Lots of anal sex could turn almost anyone off unless they are really into it, which does not sound like the case with your wife. Same goes for group sex. I could easily imagine your wife is feeling like she is being used as a sexual object. Perhaps you could learn the knowledge and skill of additional lovemaking techniques that would be more pleasing for your wife, and reducing the frequency of anal sex and group sex.

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I can’t really advise you on how to get your wife to suggest anal sex; it would seem to be too manipulative to do that. Rather, I suggest you take responsibility for yourself on this. Look at your own motivations for desiring anal sex, and uncover your hidden beliefs and assumptions about that. From the way you word your question, I am assuming you have some doubts about whether or not anal sex is ok, right, acceptable, a good thing to do, or on the other hand, bad, dirty, dangerous and possibly sinful. Once you get clear on this within yourself, that would be the correct time to raise the issue with your wife. If you are clear within yourself about this, if your motivation and desire for this experience is real, is ok with you; if you think it is a legitimate, proper, interesting sexual expression, then out of that clarity you will find a way to introduce it into your lovemaking at the right moment and place. Your sincerity of desire, your clarity of conviction, and your communicated respect for your wife’s feelings on this are the most important things.

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