What is masturbation and how do I do it?
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A great resource for finding out about masturbation is sexuality.org
Here is their search page, so you can easily find what you are looking for.
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Also, our membership website, Sexy Spiritual Relationships, in cooperation with The New School of Erotic Touch offers a huge selection of sex education videos, downloadable or in streaming format. All of these videos offer sexually explicit instruction and demonstration of techniques.
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How can I make my girlfriend feel sexy verbally?
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The way you have worded your question could be asking how to get your girlfriend to reveal that she is feeling sexy by how she talks or makes sound. I assume however, that is not what you are asking, but rather, how can you make your girlfriend feel sexy by how you talk to her.
First, a woman reveals she is feeling sexy by how she talks, how she moves her body, how she dresses and undresses, and in a million other ways that I will not go into here.
The single most important thing about erotic talk is the timing (when you say it) rather than the content (what you actually say). Teasing erotic talk can lead into some pretty hot sex. As the excitement and arousal continue to build, erotic talk may switch into “dirty talk.”
For a man to “talk dirty” (a variation of erotic talk) can be something most women will get turned on by, but only at the right moments during sexual arousal. Most women are turned off by “dirty talk” if they are not already far advanced in the excitement of passion. At the point where a woman is close to orgasm, talk including coarse language, explicit sexual descriptions, etc., may not only be welcome, she may give it right back at you.
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Erotic and Dirty Talking Videos
Sexy Justine with EnterCourse.TV has an interesting video on talking dirty. They also offer a number of other interesting videos with sex instruction.
Revver features a nice selection of erotic and dirty talking videos.
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Do ladies often have wet dreams?
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If a wet dream for a woman is understood to mean that they have an orgasm, then yes it is common for women to have orgasms while having erotic dreams.
In 1953, Alfred Kinsey, Ph.D., the famous sexuality researcher, found that nearly 40 percent of the 5,628 women he interviewed experienced at least one nocturnal orgasm (orgasms during sleep), or "wet dream," by the time they were forty-five years old. A smaller study published in the Journal of Sex Research in 1986 found that 85 percent of the women who had experienced nocturnal orgasms had done so by the age of twenty-one… some even before they turned thirteen. In addition, women who have orgasms during sleep usually have them several times a year.
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It's estimated that by age 45, 40 percent of all women have had a nocturnal orgasm at least once, compared to 80 percent of males. Fewer than 10 percent of women, compared to 50 percent of males, report having nocturnal orgasms more than five times a year. Men often experience their first orgasm during a wet dream, but women rarely have nocturnal orgasms until they have had orgasm by some other means first.
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If a wet dream for a woman is when a woman ejaculates, this would be quite rare, but not unheard of. For men, an orgasm typically includes an ejaculation, i.e., emission of semen. But for woman, an orgasm does not typically include any ejaculation of fluids. Such ejaculation of fluids is quite distinct from the normal lubrication and wetness that usually accompanies a female orgasm. When a woman ejaculates, a quantity of fluid is squirted from the urethra, sometimes forcefully and in substantial quantities. This fluid is not urine, even though it is expelled from the urethra, as is urine. For example, this fluid dries without leaving a mark. Female orgasms accompanied by an ejaculation are becoming more common for women, although still a small minority of women have them, so having them spontaneously during erotic dreaming would be something very few women have ever experienced. I know of no research on this, so there are no actual numbers to supply.
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We are 60 and 59 and we are 1st cousins and are both sexually frustrated. We are both single and have no wants to be married. I would very much like to have her as a sex buddy and I think she feels the same (get together 3 or 4 times a year), however old word thinking somewhat prevails. We do not live close but talk often and the conversation always turns to sex. We have teased each other to the point of masturbation. While this has been fun I want to go to the next level. While it does not seem like it we are both a little timid. So my question is should I push this to the next step?
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This is one of those grey areas where a personal moral judgment is to be made. I don't believe it is obvious that sex between cousins should not be ok, especially in the circumstances that you describe. If having children together were an option, that would change the equation, but I am assuming that both of you are beyond the normal age for having children, not biologically, but in terms of lifestyle. So my comments are made under the assumption that having children together is not an option. That being established, I can see no convincing arguments why you could not mutually agree to go to the next level, presumably that being to engage in active lovemaking including sexual intercourse. At this point in your lives, there is certainly no need to get anyone else's permission. Go for it.
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My boyfriend of 2 years asked me to marry him. And I said yes, but I feel like i made a mistake. He's 21, with a child on the way (with his ex-girlfriend) and I’m 18 with a younger brother who I’m raising. My mother died of cancer 2 years ago, and my father I never knew because my mother was raped *conceived me* and my brother’s father left my mother when she told him she was pregnant. I really feel like it would be too much of a burden if we got married right now.
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Marriage is a very significant change in any person’s life, carrying with it important responsibilities. You are mature for your years considering the duties associated with raising a younger brother that you have taken on. At 18 years you are barely into the age that anyone would describe as young adult yourself.
Saying yes to getting married does not mean that you have to actually go through the legal process anytime soon. Saying yes simply means you are now engaged.
I definitely advise putting off the actual date of the marriage until later. How much later?
Wait until the new baby is born, and see what the child care arrangements will be, e.g., will the child stay with the mother or with the father, or joint custody? If the father has full or joint custody, you can get a feel for how it would work out, and how much of a role you will be willing and able to play in the life of the new baby.
You can discover how you are with the new baby, how much you want to be responsible for the child’s care, how much the father actually contributes to taking on that responsibility, sharing of child care and other homemaking tasks.
You can also get a feel for how all of this will affect your brother. Understand that the effect of brining two new people into his life will be a major adjustment for him as well as yourself.
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How do women ejaculate? Just as men do, by, expulsing semen out of their vagina?
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Women ejaculate differently than men.
Stimulation of the G-spot (a sensitive area on the upper wall of the vagina, about 1 1/2 to 2 inches inside) can lead to an ejaculation. Although there is still some disagreement about it by doctors and scientists, it's generally accepted that there are a series of small glands in the spongy tissue there (para-urethral glands) which during sexual excitement produce a clear, milky fluid. Rubbing this area when you are highly excited can bring on an orgasm that's accompanied by fluid spurting out from the urethra. There can be a lot of fluid or only a little bit. It can taste slightly sweet or salty.
Sometimes women feel like they have to urinate as they are approaching G-spot orgasm. But the fluid that comes out during an ejaculatory orgasm is not urine.
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