Should I worry about getting in shape for my wedding night?

How much should I worry about getting in shape for my wedding night? He and I are both virgins. I’m not worried about my weight (I’m very thin), but I wonder how much endurance I’ll need.

ANSWER

If you are reasonably fit now I wouldn’t worry too much about getting in better shape physically for your wedding night. Your excitement and desire will carry you through quite well There are other things you can do to prepare for a great night together. Here are a few suggestions:

1.  PC PUMPING

What you can start doing on a physical level, if you aren’t already doing these exercises, are PC Pumps (also known as Kegels). These are exercises that tone, strengthen and sensitize your genital muscles, so that your yoni (the Tantric term for vagina) is very receptive to lovemaking.

Here’s a basic overview:

The PC Pump

The pelvic floor muscles surround the anus, genitals, and urethra and provide support for the reproductive organs.

The PC or pubococcygeous muscle (pronounced pew-bo-cox-e-g-us) is part of this muscle group. At first when you are practicing the PC Pump you may involuntarily contract the abdominal muscles and the anus, too, because you are unable to differentiate between the muscles. But with practice you can detect and isolate the PC muscle while allowing other muscles to stay relaxed. You will be able to isolate and move the many different muscles within your entire genital area. Keeping all the muscles surrounding your internal organs toned and tight helps prevent fallen organs. It helps relax you. Practicing it while making love it will greatly heighten sensation for both you and your partner.

Pulsing:

1. Inhale, contracting the PC muscle, keeping the rest of your body relaxed, especially your shoulders.
2. As you hold your breath, relax and then tighten the PC muscle in quick, short pulsations.
3. Exhale and relax the PC muscle.

Repeat for several minutes using your natural rhythm of breathing, so that you get a feeling that your muscles are fluttering. Do this 25-30 times a day and work up to 200 per day.

Pumping:

1. Tighten the PC muscle as you inhale and hold for the count of six seconds.
2. Exhale, relax the PC muscle and gently bear down.
3. Repeat this sequence for several minutes.

The Elevator:

This exercise includes more of the muscles in the whole muscle group.

1. While sitting or lying on your back, take a deep breath and pretend you are riding an elevator.
2. Start in at the bottom floor with an anal contraction, move forward along the muscles, tightening up individual muscles until you reach the “top” floor.
3. Then gradually relax the muscles, “floor by floor”, until you return to the bottom floor.
4. Repeat this trip 6 times, 3 times a day.

As with any exercise we need to develop a regular habit of giving our PC muscles a work-out. So to begin with, consciously set aside a time of day to do these: in the morning as you shower, on the bus as you travel to school or work, as part of your regular exercise routine (if you have one). Soon it will be something you’ll automatically begin to do anytime. You can do these anywhere and no one can tell!

2.  EMOTIONAL PREPARATION

One of the most important aspects of a satisfying sexual life is the willingness to be emotionally vulnerable and transparent with your partner. Hold nothing back, allow yourself to let go completely into your sexual desire and your love for your new husband.

Revel in your freedom to explore each other fully in all ways. Do not allow any feelings of shame or guilt around sex to hold you back from thoroughly diving in to this ecstatic connection.

Relax and explore each other together. You have years ahead of you, you don’t have to “get it right” this first time. Whatever you do, if you do it with absolute love will be the right thing.

3.  PREPARATION FOR PENETRATION

Because you are still a virgin, if you haven’t had much penetration with fingers for instance, your vagina could be fairly tight. Depending on the size of your husband’s penis, this might influence the ease of penetration for intercourse.

To make sure that intercourse is pleasurable for you this first time, it’s really, really, really important that you are ready for penetration. That means you engage in lots of foreplay — kissing (not just on the mouth, but all over each other’s bodies), caressing (long, slow tender strokes over your arms, legs, back, belly, buttocks, breasts, etc.), plus slow, soft, extremely gentle awakening of your yoni and stimulation of your clitoris (either manually or with oral sex or both) BEFORE he goes inside you with his penis. If you are very wet and absolutely aching for him to get inside you, you can bet your experience will be a whole lot better than if he tries to penetrate before you’re ready.

You may want to get our ebook “Awakening Women’s Orgasm” It has lots of great tips for both you and your husband-to-be.

Congratulations on your wedding and best wishes to both of you for a long and sexually satisfying marriage.

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