I have always had an interest in anal sex
March 30, 2010 by Al Link
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My wife and I have been married almost 29 years and I have always had an interest in anal sex for what reason I don’t know. Anyway I’ve never pushed the subject though I have approached it from time to time. My question is what might I do to get her to actually be the one approach the subject on her own?
ANSWER
I can’t really advise you on how to get your wife to suggest anal sex; it would seem to be too manipulative to do that. Rather, I suggest you take responsibility for yourself on this. Look at your own motivations for desiring anal sex, and uncover your hidden beliefs and assumptions about that. From the way you word your question, I am assuming you have some doubts about whether or not anal sex is ok, right, acceptable, a good thing to do, or on the other hand, bad, dirty, dangerous and possibly sinful. Once you get clear on this within yourself, that would be the correct time to raise the issue with your wife. If you are clear within yourself about this, if your motivation and desire for this experience is real, is ok with you; if you think it is a legitimate, proper, interesting sexual expression, then out of that clarity you will find a way to introduce it into your lovemaking at the right moment and place. Your sincerity of desire, your clarity of conviction, and your communicated respect for your wife’s feelings on this are the most important things.
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