January 22, 2010

How can I get an erection for long time?

I am 29 years old. I am getting married shortly.

I am used to masturbation regularly since my 1st year of College. Whenever I see any scene of kissing or any semi nude photograph, etc., I used to get erection, and in night when the same scene comes on my mind, I used to masturbate. It used to take lot of time to ejaculate. But now since a year or so, such scenes are not making my penis to get erect, and if at all, it lasts for a very short period. In a very short time of erection, semen gets ejaculated.

Once while travelling in bus, it was full, i was sitting in the door, one person( male only) was sitting facing me, on foot board. it was night. He started touching my groin area occasionally, and with that my penis started to get erect. When he touched 4th or 5th time, I just avoided it, by holding that part of my pants with my hands, but as soon as I held it, semen came out. Why so fast is this happening? After marriage, will I be able to do justice to my wife? How can I get an erection for long time? I feel that my penis becomes bit soft in 2-3 minutes after it gets erected.

ANSWER

First, stop the masturbation or cut back as much as possible, unless you use the masturbation as ejaculation training. Using masturbation as ejaculation training means you stimulate yourself close to ejaculation and then back off from further stimulation. You don’t masturbate all the way to ejaculation. There is nothing wrong, per se, about masturbation to ejaculation, but in your case there are problems, so further masturbation to include ejaculation will only contribute to your problems persisting and/or getting worse.

Your challenge in preparation for marriage and regular sexual contact with a woman, is to learn how to work consciously with your hot sexual energy. The primary exercise for doing this is PC squeezing, where you squeeze the genital muscles as if you were stopping the flow of urine midstream. Squeeze and hold for 5-8 seconds. Relax the squeeze for 2 seconds, then repeat the squeeze. Build up over a two week period to doing 100 such squeezes per day. You don’t have to do all 100 at once, but anytime throughout the day, when you are waiting in line, or working on your computer, etc., do 5-15 squeezes.

Ejaculation mastery means you can delay ejaculation for any length of time during lovemaking. To acquire such mastery takes months, and typically approximately 2 years of training for the average man. You can learn to use PC squeezing, breathing, relaxation, visualization, and other practices to work toward such mastery.

A good place to start is with our eBook.

Voluntary Ejaculation and Male Multiple Orgasms

Also, there is an excellent video on strengthening the penis.

TANTRIC YOGA & SEXUAL KUNG FU FOR MEN by Loren Johnson.