Is it because I’m scared of commitment?

ANSWER

You can’t get what you do want if you accept what you don’t want. Stop wasting your time with people you don’t care about, and stop wasting their time. It is not fair to either you or them.

Fear of commitment; you definitely have it, but you are not alone in that. Almost everyone who has had a broken heart has the same fear.

Most people desire more than anything else to remain within their emotional comfort zone. We don’t like it to have “bad” feelings of fear, depression, insecurity, pain, hurt, etc. This is understandable, but if you are going to change the way things are, then you can’t continue to act in the same ways you have always acted, you must act in new ways. Almost certainly that will cause you to experience some of those bad feelings and take you out of your emotional comfort zone. The danger is that you will immediately act to feel better, and usually this means doing the same old things you have always done. The challenge is for you to tolerate being temporarily in your emotional discomfort zone, long enough to act in ways that will support creating the new results that you want. Acting in new ways will bring new results, and these new results will bring new “good” feelings of love, happiness, security, pleasure, fulfillment, etc.

The choice is yours, whimp out and stay where your are, or go forward acting in new ways to create a new positive life.

Al Link and Pala Copeland

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