We might go a month or more without sex.
January 8, 2010 by Al Link
Filed under Questions and Answers
Our sex life has went downhill from misunderstandings and recently started using condoms. We might go a month or more without sex. Recently while we were he told me after he went down that my vagina wasn’t stimulating enough. It wasn’t wet enough it didn’t fit comfortably he felt too much pressure because we never do it. So can you have a vagina penis mix match?
ANSWER
I am assuming there is nothing wrong with your yoni (Sanskrit for vagina) and that your lover is unfortunately projecting this entire problem onto you, as if he had nothing to do with it. Both of you could benefit by learning the knowledge and skill of mastery in the art of love. For example, read some books and take some workshops.
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Of course there can be a miss match in size of penis and vagina, but that does not sound at all like what is really going on. For you to become highly aroused and lubricated (wet), your lover must be knowledgeable and skilled in techniques of foreplay. He must take lots of time bringing you to arousal before there is any attempt at penetration, and I am talking anywhere from 30 – 90 minutes! And you must learn to stay in your body, not in your head thinking. When you find yourself thinking rather than being in your body, do these things:
1. Pay attention to sensory information, what you hear, smell, taste, touch, and see. But don’t name those things, just take in the direct sensory information, e.g., just the sound, not naming what the sound is.
2. Get in touch with how much you love and care for this man.
3. Breath long slow deep breaths.
Both of you should practice, daily, PC squeezing. Squeeze as if you were stopping the flow of urine in mid stream. Hold the squeeze for 5-8 seconds, then relax and repeat perhaps 100 times over the course of a day. This will assist with your vaginal lubrication, and give you the strength to grip his penis while he is inside you in a most stimulating way. For him, this will enable him to learn how to delay his ejaculation so he can last long enough for you to become fully sexually satisfied during intercourse.
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