How do I make her feel my love?
December 11, 2009 by Al Link
Filed under Questions and Answers
I love a girl and her name is Joey. She’s only 13 years old and I am 17. I love her and I have asked her if she wants to become mine but she say she has no feelings. How do i make her feel my love? Do I give her flowers, poetry, or what? I do not know. I am confused in this matter.
ANSWER
You may not like the answer, but she has given it to you – she has no feelings for you in the way you want her to. You will be better off if you let go of your desire to make her yours and start looking at other girls.
Here are a number of aspects of the situation for you to think about:
1. She is 13 and you are 17 – 4 years is not a lot of difference when you are 23 and 27, but it is a great big difference at your ages. She is still very young and not really mature enough for a committed relationship.
2. Do you really "love" her, or do you "want" her? Real love makes no demands. It doesn’t try to hold on tightly to the loved one. It listens and supports and lets the other person be who, how, and what they want to be and do.
3. Flowers and poetry are wonderful ways to show someone you care. Even more important is truthful communication and explaining your feelings – women of all ages respond to this.
4. If you are really interested in this girl and want what is best for her, just be her friend, without any expectation of something more. I know it is difficult to let go when you are overwhelmed with emotion and desire, but this is the best course of action for both of you.
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