I find myself wishing he would kiss me by or hug me more

Yes my ex and I are back together after 3 months. Okay I want this to work this time. There were some issues with my ex, my daughters father, the first time my ex told me he was confused. Well I need and want to have a talk with him.

But he works now Monday through Thursdays and I am the mother of a special needs daughter. What bothers me is I know I am shy and why does it seem like I am scared to talk to him. He doesn’t make me uncomfortable, never has. I feel in shock he asked for us to go together again Sunday night but I hate that I won’t say what is on my mind, can’t.

I want to spend more time then we did the first time when he was in school and his mom moved in the early part of this year. She had shoulder surgery. I just want to find a way to talk to him because one thing I want him to know is I need him through the rough times as well as good times.

 
He doesn’t come off as shy but I feel he may be and I find myself wishing he would kiss me by or hug me more. He kisses me sometimes like the first time and hugs me. I think I got used to my daughter’s father. He’s bold and if he wants to kiss you or hug you he will. And I know Geno is more my type. Believe me, bad boys are not my type. Again I don’t want us to break up again because I did not take it good the first time.

ANSWER

It is a very common pitfall that catches and defeats people from creating the results they desire. The pitfall is this. When you feel emotionally uncomfortable, like you are describing in your question, you act immediately to return to your emotional comfort zone. But unfortunately this just means you will stay stuck in exactly the same place you currently are in. In order to create different outcomes that you really want, you will have to do things, new things, and these will almost certainly make you feel afraid, insecure, and threatened. But what is called for is not to run away, but rather to boldly take action to support creating what you choose and want and desire, not just to feel better right this moment. As you take action, in spite of your emotional discomfort, you will start to move closer to actually creating the outcomes you desire, and your emotional discomfort will drop off dramatically, while your confidence, security and happiness will increase dramatically.

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