He doesn’t want to cum in me
September 27, 2009 by Al Link
Filed under Questions and Answers
My boyfriend and I are thinking about having sex soon (it almost happened already), and he told me he’s going to pull out with a condom on though because he doesn’t wanna cum in me. He keeps asking me what I want him to do when he cums, but I thought since he’s wearing a condom the sperm goes in there? What are some options he’s maybe referring to?
ANSWER
Condoms are almost perfect protection, but there can be problems. For example the condom could slip off if not put onto the penis to the full length, or if the man remains inside you after he comes and the penis shrinks rapidly, it is quite easy for the condom to slip off. Absolutely, do not keep having active thrusting intercourse after he ejaculates and starts losing his erection. As soon as his penis starts to shrink after the ejaculation, he should pull out to avoid any risk of leakage of sperm into the vagina.
Another risk is that the condom could become compromised with a tear or pinhole leak. These things don’t happen frequently but they do happen. Condoms are normally made from latex. But latex deteriorates if it comes into contact with oil, e.g., massage oil. Never use an oil based lubricant if you are using a condom. There are also vinyl condoms and they do not deteriorate with contact with oil. Also, there are water based and silicone based lubricants that are safe for use with latex condoms.
Ordinarily, if the man is wearing a condom, there is no need to pull out at the point of ejaculation, since all sperm will be contained inside the condom and none will gain entry to the vagina, but keep the above mentioned cautions in mind.
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