Is it love or lust?

What do his touches mean? Is it love or lust? Well I’m a very naive girl and I never had a boyfriend. I met my cousin (3years younger than me but looks like a MAN) on this summer vacation. It’s been 7 years since we met again. Now I’m 23 and he’s 20. we drank a lot together and I talked a lot about myself and family, and he did too.

I was crying and laughing and he saw so many stupid and weak sides of me. So I’m now very shy in front of him. I don’t even remember all of what I told him. These days he often cuddles me and rubs my shoulders and arms, which feels good. He also fixes my hair. Last night we were sleeping together in the same room and he came over to me and hugged me from back while I was lying on my side, then he gently rubbed my pelvis (bone and thigh) and put his nose very close to my neck and breathed deep.

I didn’t know what to do, so I just let him be. HonestIy I didn’t hate it. We knew we were both not sleeping and he also was touching my hand while we were in the car when I was falling asleep. He’s often staring at me and always smiling at me and he looks really happy to watch me.

But I want to know exactly what it means when a guy touches shoulder and arm, cuz I think it’s ok between cousins, touching hands, hair, waist, hips, isn’t it?

But because he’s my younger cousin and I don’t know if it’s too much or not. Maybe he did this as a, oh my cute cousin, she’s so sweet and innocent. I love her! We are family! And now I’m overacting.
 

Was it too much touching for family? Is it a bit too sexual, this touching? Did he cross the line?
 

Well I never had a relationship so I’m not sure. But when we were drunk he kept telling me, you are the cutest girl I’ve ever met, you are super sexy.
 

Sexy? It’s a bit of an awkward compliment from a younger cousin. I’m very confused, most of all because I like his touches, just not as a cousin. If he was just a man…

 

ANSWER

Sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between affection and sexual interest, especially if you don’t have any experience.

If you aren’t sure what’s going on — the best thing you can do is ask. Obviously you’ve already revealed a great deal to your cousin. You don’t have to be drunk to talk to him about your feelings and your uncertainty. You are past that now. So, take a deep breath and talk to him about what is going on.

Good luck — you can do it.

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