We tried anal sex and my husband loves it

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Anal sex isn’t for everyone, but here are some ideas to assist you.

The anus has a lot of nerve endings and so anal sex can be quite enjoyable, but only if it is done properly.

The receiving partner, the one who is being anally penetrated, must be very relaxed, so that the anus opens happily. You should also be aroused, very sexually excited before anal sex. Tender tickling around the anus, and massage of the buttocks and the anus can help.

It’s also very important that the active partner, the one penetrating the anus, proceeds with gentleness and respect. Internal tissues are very tender and thin, and there is no natural lubricant. If you husband is pushing his way in hard and fast it’s no wonder you don’t enjoy it. It is understandable that he would be very excited by anal intercourse — "opposites" sex positions are more animalistic, impersonal, and often very arousing. But, he must remember to add affection as well.

Ask him if you can experiment with anal penetration on him. Use a latex glove to manually explore his anus, or try various types of sextoys that are specifically designed for anal play, like butt plugs, anal beads, and the Aneros prostate massager. This will give him a firsthand experience of what anal penetration feels like, and a understanding of the need for tenderness. With the proper attention on your part, he may come to thoroughly enjoy himself.

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