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I suggest you drop the goal orientation of getting to orgasm. Replace it with a pleasure orientation; mutually giving and receiving pleasure, always with your full attention in the now moment so every touch, every breath, every contact of your eyes is significant, full, rich, enough. With the goal orientation all of these touches and contacts are reduced to being merely means to an end, only of value to get somewhere else; hence they become devoid of the pleasure they are otherwise naturally saturated with.


Furthermore, I suggest you explore separating orgasm and ejaculation. Learn how to work consciously with your hot sexual energy, to cultivate it, move it and share it with your lover. It is possible to have orgasms, many  of them, none of which needs to be accompanied by ejaculation.


Here are two free articles you can study to begin this practice.

Voluntary Ejaculation

Simple Techniques for Mastering Ejaculation


We also offer a more detailed electronic book with full instructions.

Voluntary Ejaculation and Male Multiple Orgasms eBook

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