We are just starting to become sexually involved
April 7, 2009 by Al Link
Filed under Questions and Answers
My girlfriend and I are currently just starting to become sexually involved. I am 19 and at college, and she is a senior in high school. Last time we got together I pleasured her, so now it’s going to be my turn. I’m really nervous, not about her seeing or touching my penis, but about ejaculating in front of her. I don’t know how she will handle the "mess" of it, and what to do. This is new for both of us which is why I am concerned. We are very close and care about each other a lot, and although she really wants to do this, I don’t want to if it’s going to change her thoughts about me.
ANSWER
There is probably no real problem, except in your own head. Women do not typically find sperm messy, disgusting, revolting or to be any kind of turn off, although that is a possibility, particularly for women who have been sexually abused.
On the contrary, she will likely be very curious about everything to do with sex, including your ejaculation. She may even want to taste it, e.g., if you were to cum in her mouth.
To relive your concerns about this aspect of your upcoming experience, talk to her about your concerns. Most women welcome such an emotional vulnerability that you show by letting her know how you are feeling about this situation.
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