I don’t want to have sex yet
April 1, 2009 by Al Link
Filed under Questions and Answers
My boyfriend and I are REALLY feeling sexually charged and don’t want to have sex yet. Is it ok to French kiss and sleep together or is that way out of range for our age (13)?
ANSWER
What you do in your sexual exploration has to depend on your emotional maturity as well as your physical desire. You are wise to be cautious. Don’t put yourself in any situation that can lead to going farther than you want. Before you do anything sexually, ask yourself if every part of you–your mind, your heart, your spirit, as well as your body–feels that this is the right thing to do.
My suggestion for relieving sexual tension is self-pleasuring, masturbation (on your own, not together). This private act is very normal and can help you learn about your sexual arousal as well as release that high sexual charge that can lead you too far before you are ready.
I wish you great joy in your life and in your awakening sexuality. Take your time.
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I was really glad to see that someone also tells teens to masturbate. It is a natural and 100% safe way to release that sexual tention. Thank you again for the wonderful advise- keep it up!!