Can you give me some advice about how to spice things up?

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It’s very common for sex lives to undergo dramatic changes for a while after a new baby arrives. There are a lot of factors affecting you, among them: lack of sleep, hormonal changes (affecting you physically and emotionally), and focusing loving attention on your baby.

If you want to keep passion alive in your relationship you need to schedule time for each other. Once a week arrange a "date" with your partner, and arrange for someone else to care for the baby for several hours. Try to come to this session as rested as possible. Think quality of sex, not quantity. One good lovemaking session a week will keep you looking forward to more and it will make you more inclined to participate in quickies when you have the chance.

Also arrange to have a little time for yourself, for pampering — bubble baths, meditation time, facials, and so on will help you relax and feel better about yourself. Wear sensuous clothes. Put lotion on your body with care and love. Remember that men are very turned on by how turned on their partner is, so instead of worrying about how you look, focus on how much you love him and want to be close to him.

Talk to each other about your feelings and your desires. Sexy, playful talk can keep things spicy, even if you don’t have lots of time for action.

Keeping the sexual fires going can be a big challenge at first, but it’s well worth the effort.

Our article: Freeing the Female Orgasm has some info that may help you and your partner

Consider also our ebook Awakening Women’s Orgasm
 

You might also want to check out this book:

Confessions of a Naughty Mommy: How I Found My Lost Libido by Heather Raykeil

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