Should I push this to the next step?
December 30, 2008 by Al Link
Filed under Questions and Answers
We are 60 and 59 and we are 1st cousins and are both sexually frustrated. We are both single and have no wants to be married. I would very much like to have her as a sex buddy and I think she feels the same (get together 3 or 4 times a year), however old word thinking somewhat prevails. We do not live close but talk often and the conversation always turns to sex. We have teased each other to the point of masturbation. While this has been fun I want to go to the next level. While it does not seem like it we are both a little timid. So my question is should I push this to the next step?
ANSWER
This is one of those grey areas where a personal moral judgment is to be made. I don’t believe it is obvious that sex between cousins should not be ok, especially in the circumstances that you describe. If having children together were an option, that would change the equation, but I am assuming that both of you are beyond the normal age for having children, not biologically, but in terms of lifestyle. So my comments are made under the assumption that having children together is not an option. That being established, I can see no convincing arguments why you could not mutually agree to go to the next level, presumably that being to engage in active lovemaking including sexual intercourse. At this point in your lives, there is certainly no need to get anyone else’s permission. Go for it.
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