I try to give my girlfriend oral stimulation but she turns me away

I try to give my girlfriend oral stimulation but she turns me away, Why is that? She is clean down there and it doesn’t smell weird, she just says that she feels weird. Any insight?

ANSWER

Many women feel embarrassed or ashamed about their genitals. Most of us have gotten the message that our vaginas are smelly, dirty, and ugly. Some of us have gotten past that feeling, others haven’t.

Some suggestions:

Talk to her about her feelings, ask her if she can let you know why she feels "weird".

Reassure her that you think she is lovely, sexy, and desirable — in every part of her body and mind and that she’ll still be a "good person" if she allows herself to enjoy oral sex.

Tell her that for most women, one of the easiest ways to come to orgasm is by gentle stimulation of the clitoris with the tongue. The tongue is ideally suited to bring the clitoris pleasure because of its moisture, flexibility and texture

Tell her also that there are chemical attractants in male and female animals (including human beings) called pheromones. Although they aren’t actually odors, we do register these pheromones through our noses. Most of women’s pheromones (called copulins) are produced in the vagina. So let her know that it is very natural for you to want to have your face there at her vagina — that’s how you pick up her unique feminine aroma.

Ask her if she would let you explore her vagina with loving care and respect — with gentle looks and touches.
 

Get a copy of the "Vagina Monologues" by Eve Ensler and watch it together. It will help you both understand how women feel about this sacred part of their bodies.
 

Read this article about "Freeing Women’s Orgasm" — it will give you both tips for pleasure.
 

You are to be commended for helping her learn to love her body and to receive pleasure from it. She may continue to be shy for a while, but once you help her get past it she’ll be very happy!

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