So how can I take a control?

One of the most basic methods is to use masturbation to help you learn to delay the ejaculation response. Arouse yourself close to ejaculation, then stop the arousal and wait for the hot sexual energy to subside. Begin the stimulation again and build your arousal, then back off before you ejaculate. Start by only going to, say 50% close to ejaculation, then back off, wait until you are calmed down, begin again, then go to 60% close, then 70%, etc. This should help you when you are in sexual contact with a partner.

 

 

 

The other essential thing to do is work up to approximately 100 PC (stands for pubococcygeus, the group of muscles extending from the pubic bone to the coccyx – the tip of the tail bone). Squeeze this group of muscles as if you were stopping the flow of urine midstream. Don’t try to squeeze as hard as possible because it is not how hard you squeeze that matters. The important thing is to identify the muscles in that area and gain the ability to tighten and relax them one at a time. Hold the squeeze for perhaps 8 seconds, then relax and repeat. Build up to doing 100 per day over the course of, say, two weeks, rather than trying to do 100 all the first day, otherwise you will get sore. After a month of so of this practice you will have strengthened and toned those muscles significantly. When you do this PC squeezing during lovemaking, you will be able to move the hot sexual energy up through your body, away from the genitals and your prostate, and this is one of the secrets enabling men to delay ejaculation during lovemaking.