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October 24, 2008 by Al Link
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I found your site through Google and thank you for your many insights. I’m wondering if you could provide through your expertise, direction to readings and/or teachings for two male friends who are interested in exploring Tantric practice leading to a higher awareness, though we are not lovers, we are comfortable with each other. Thank you kindly for any insights that you would be willing to share.
ANSWER
Consider our new membership website SexySpiritualRelationships.com with text, audio and video instruction. The Kama Sutra series is now available and the Tantra series will be early in the new year.
Some of the best resources are available from the New School of Erotic Touch including online video training.
Here is a Tantra for Gay Men Reading List
Tantra for Gay Men by Bruce Anderson
Western cultures have often thought of the ancient practice of tantra as a form of super-sex. However, as scholar and teacher Bruce Anderson makes clear in this first guide for gay men to the art of tantra, it is actually a rigorous practice that harnesses sexual energy as fuel for spiritual development. In eight empowering chapters, Anderson explores and explains the spiritual concepts that practitioners must fully integrate into their lives before experiencing the transformative effects of tantra.
How does Tantra facilitate the awakening and rise of Kundalini?
What is the relevance of Tantra today for men who love men?
What are the origins of Tantra?
What is the goal of Tantra?
Readers will be guided through the process of incorporating Tantric philosophy and practices into their sexual and spiritual through multiple excercises on:
Harnessing breath as a means to awakening development.
Achieving bliss through posture.
Strengthening abdominals, and erections.
Lovemaking techniques for achieving sacred unions.
Postponing and prolonging orgasms.
Bruce Anderson’s astute and unaffected approach to both the technical and spiritual elements of tantra will allow gay men to enhance the power of their lovemaking and the strength of their orgasms to reach a state of cosmic bliss.
Bruce Anderson has studied with Amazonian and Plains Indian shamans as well as Tibetan, East Indian, and Egyptian tantra teachers. He is a third-level cobra breath practitioner and teaches the class "Tantra for Men" at the Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Center’s Village at Ed Gould Plaza.
Gay Tantra by William Schindler
Sex and spirituality are two topics guaranteed to arouse strong feelings in gay-identified persons because of the history of religious persecution of gay people. Many of us were taught explicitly or implicitly that sex, especially gay sex, is the opposite of spirituality. Gay popular culture thrives in the senses, be it opera, disco, or leather. Furthermore, our sensuality is deeply rooted in homoeroticism, in the inescapable fact that we inhabit bodies likely to be erotically stimulating to ourselves. We need a spirituality that works with our sensuality, not against it. Traditional Hindu Tantra offers us exactly this type of spirituality. GAY TANTRA reveals how traditional Hindu Tantra may be adapted to serve the unique spiritual aptitudes and needs of gay-identified persons of any gender. The book demonstrates how a fully integrated gay identity can be a positive aid in the quest for enlightenment.
The Gay Man’s Kama Sutra by Terry Sanderson and Kat Harding
The Kama Sutra, the famed ancient Indian guide to lovemaking, has been used to enhance sexual experiences since the fouth century. Now, it has been reinterpreted to created the ultimate sex guide for gay men. Using clear, empowering text to celebrate the art of gay lovemaking, The Gay Man’s Kama Sutra applies the art and spirit and intention of the original Kama Sutra–the expression of uninhibited pleasure through sex–to the lives of twenty-first century gay men. It shamelessly encourages love and sex, pleasure and sensuality, uninhibited erotic indulgence and play. Visually stunning, it is accompanied by exquisite, sensual artworks from the original Kama Sutra, classic homo-erotic artworks, and tasteful instructional line drawings.
Wheter you are in a long-term partnership, an open relationship, or are enjoying a life of sexual freedom, this book offers invaluable advice for a happy, healthy, and satisfying sex life. Evey aspect of gay sex is explored–from oral congress and masturbation to anal sex and fetishes–and important issues such as finding a partner, emotional problems, and safe sex are also included.
Born in the north of England, Terry Sanderson is one of Britain’s best-known gay journalists, having written an influential column in Gay Times for almost twenty years. He is also the author of several best-selling self-help books for gay men, including How to Be a Happy Homosexual, the A-Z of Gay Sex, Making Gay Relationships Work, A Stranger in the Family — How to Cope if Your Child is Gay, Assertively Gay, and the novels The Potts Correspondence and The Potts Papers. He worked for two years on the problem page of a national woman’s magazine and has contributed to The Guardian (London), The Sunday Tiimes (London), The (London) Observer and The Independent on Sunday (London).
Terry is active in gay politics, frequently speaking at events and conferences. He lives in London.
Gay Spirit: Myth and Meaning (White Crane Spirituality series) by Mark Thompson (Editor)
Cultural editor of the Advocate, Thompson here collects previously published articles and book excerpts from the magazine, each an attempt to define the status of gay men. In an introduction he distinguishes between homosexual (a form of sexuality) and gay: "A social identity and consciousness actively chosen." The text discusses the gay’s role in politics, religion, culture, identity. Among the contributors are Judy Grahn, author of lesbian/feminist works; Malcolm Boyd, activist Episcopal priest; Harry Hay, a founder of the Mattachine Society; and writer William S. Burroughs. Although the anthology will prove enlightening to nongays, they will be put off by Geoff Mains’s "Urban Aboriginals and the Celebration of Leather Magic," an approving, detailed description of sadomasochism. Photos not seen by PW.
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Gay Spirit calls gay people back to the Circle of Life as full participants in the dance of survival and joy…this anthology is like the rains of spring hastening our unique growth, flowering and fruition. –Gay Community News
Gay Spirit is daring, which only proves its timeliness… it signals the opening of a new area of gay publishing, a field of spiritual exploration outside the context of religion or politics. –The Advocate
Gay Spirit is so terrific at making the reader feel there might be something more wondrous, more miraculous to life… the book’s exciting challenge to conventional thinking is that it’s not merely time for society to tolerate but time to cherish its intermediate sexual types. –Los Angeles Times
Sex, Orgasm, and the Mind of Clear Light: The Sixty-four Arts of Gay Male Love by Jeffrey Hopkins
"Jeffrey Hopkins knows that physicality is the doorway to the sublime. As he probes the mysteries of sexual and spiritual ecstasy, he teaches us about Buddhism, the wisdom of our bodies, and the luminosity of our minds. ‘All beings are seeking happiness,’ he reminds us. His book has wisdom, power and dignity."
-Mark D. Epstein, M.D., author of Thoughts Without A Thinker: Psychotherapy from A Buddhist Perspective
"The great classics of religious literature have presumed a heterosexual audience. Gay men are left wondering: how does this relate to me, to my desire? Whatever opinion one may have regarding the spiritual relevance or feasibility of the techniques described in this book, that it presumes a gay male audience makes it an unquestionable contribution to the queering of Buddhism…a real tour de force."
-Jose Ignacio Cabezon, Illiff School of Theology, Denver, author of Buddhism, Sexuality, and Gender
In this ground-breaking work, Tibetan Buddhist scholar Jeffrey Hopkins has adapted Tibetan philosopher Gedun Chopel’s heterosexual sex manual Tibetan Arts of Love as a gay sex guide. Interweaving ecstatic poetry and prose, Hopkins shows how sexual passion can open the door to spiritual growth.
Hopkins argues that orgasm itself can bring lovers to a powerful level of consciousness. Beautifully written, the techniques show that pinching, scratching, union from the rear, switching roles, thrill cries, and oral sex all have an impact on erotic life. Hopkins concludes with four "ruminations" on the sex-friendly nature of Tibetan Buddhism.
Two Flutes Playing: A Spiritual Journeybook for Gay Men (White Crane Spirituality) by Andrew Ramer
"We had many saints, many heroes, both female and male, but I want to speak here of the saints and heroes of the gay tribes. For this is a period of human history that has been lost through time, whose return is vitally needed. For you know the heroes of the other tribes. But of this small, sacred tribe, whose history has been obscured, you remember nothing."
So tells acclaimed author Andrew Ramer in Two Flutes Playing. Within these pages can be found insight and wisdom. Ramer serves as a mythologist for gay men, providing evidence to the harmony of gender, love and sex. A new introduction by the author reveals why this book’s timeless message has once more returned to print as the inaugural title in the White Crane Spirituality Series.
Essays on Gay Tantra by William Schindler
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