The ideal is for the male to make ejaculation voluntary rather than what is so common, that is, premature, before one or both of the lovers is ready for it. This is a problem since ejaculation typically ends the lovemaking, and unfortunately this is almost certainly before the female partner is fully satisfied. Female ejaculation is definitely something women can learn to do.

Both men and woman can have multiple orgasms, but the man must learn to separate orgasm from ejaculation in order to have multiple orgasms. By having an orgasm without ejaculation, the man does not lose his erection or his libido (desire). He stays ready, eager and able to continue on with the lovemaking. Once he can do this the lovemaking can last for hours, rather than the few minutes that is more common.

 

The key to extending the lovemaking in this way is for both lovers to learn to cultivate (increase) and circulate the hot sexual energy up away from the genitals through the rest of the body. This awakens the higher chakra energy centers and creates the condition necessary for the couple to experience mutual sexual spiritual ecstasy. Both lovers must learn to raise this energy and eventually you can learn to exchange it between you during your coupling.
 
The responsibility for going to higher spiritual ecstatic states is equal with both lovers. Neither of you can be responsible for the experience the other one has. Your only responsibility to each other is to undertake the disciplined learning necessary to develop sexual skill and mastery of the hot sexual energy.

To help your female partner continue with the lovemaking after a first clitoral orgasm, stop and become completely still, but maintain the lightest possible contact with the clitoris and, say for example, your tongue. Then wait perhaps 30-60 seconds and try to start moving again, but notice carefully her response. If she is ready, go ahead, if not stop and wait again. Repeat until she is ready to proceed. Don’t break the contact or it will be very difficult to continue.