You are having an emotional/psychological negative reaction (similar to an allergic reaction) to performing oral sex. Look inside and carefully examine your beliefs and assumptions about oral sex. Also consider any past traumatic or strong emotionally uncomfortable experiences with oral sex.

To change yourself inside regarding oral sex, do this exercise repeatedly until your allergic reaction disappears.

Create a visual image of yourself involved giving or receiving oral sex. Make sure the image is entirely positive including you having strong feelings of pleasure and being not only emotionally comfortable with the experience but also enjoying it immensely. Compare that image with a remembered image of you having the allergic reaction. Then send the allergic reaction away and hold onto the positive image. Say to yourself (inside your head, not out loud), “I choose to create this happy experience with oral sex.” Call up the allergic reaction and compare it with your happy image. Send the allergic reaction away, holding only the happy image in your awareness and say to yourself, “I choose to create this happy experience with oral sex. Repeat as often as necessary.”