If you've "gotten off" with oral sex then you've definitely had an orgasm. Women can learn to experience many types of orgasms in many parts of their bodies. Orgasms that range from very mild sensations to out-of-this world wild. Orgasms from breast stimulation, orgasms from clitoral stimulation, varieties of vaginal orgasms from manual stimulation or intercourse, whole body orgasms and more. Basically you need to give yourself permission to learn to experience all the sexual pleasure you can and then you need the time to do it. It takes a while for most women to become aroused enough to experience all the orgasms they are capable of.

Because orgasm is something women learn to do, I'd suggest you read this article Freeing the Female Orgasm.  We wrote it for a man’s magazine so it’s from a male point of view, but it has lots of great info.

You may also be interested in our ebook Awakening Women’s Orgasm. It has lots of fabulous ideas, practices, and exercises to do on your own and with a partner.