What Do I need to do to be more sexually comfortable?

I just wanted to know if there is anything thing I can do to help me get more sexually comfortable.  My husband wants me to give him stripteases. Just the thought of that makes me super nervous and uncomfortable, I want to be able to striptease for him but its hard just to think about it.  I also have a really hard time getting in the mood for sex, sometimes when my husband starts kissing me I feel anxious and claustrophobic.  What do I need to do to be more sexually comfortable?

ANSWER

First, if you want to learn about erotic dancing you can check out this video: The Art of Exotic Dancing for Everyday Women. It’s a great way to learn about moving your body for your lover.

Second, it’s helpful to remember that men are very visual. They love to look at their women, especially when they are acting sexy. It’s a very interesting circle – if you can relax and move for him, he gets excited watching, you get excited dancing because he obviously thinks you’re fabulous, you’re able to relax and move more, he gets more aroused, and so on. Also, know that men aren’t nearly as critical as women are about the “perfection” of the body. They are really turned on by a woman who feels sexy and shows it, no matter if she’s a size 6 or a size 26.

Third, there’s a natural difference in arousal rates between men and women. Part of this is physical difference part is energetic difference. The main thing to know is that men get hotter faster than women. So, rather than you trying to speed up your arousal, your husband can learn to approach you a little more slowly. Check out our articles, particularly these two: Freeing The Female Orgasm  and The Married Lovers’ Hot Bed for some great tips. You might also want to order our ebook: Awakening Women’s Orgasm

Al Link and Pala Copeland

Sexy Spiritual Relationships