I am in a committed, awesome relationship with a great lady.  We have been together almost two years.  She is open and honest, to a fault.  She has told me about several of her past relationships, in intimate detail.  To include exploits, places, acts, and even penis or scrotum size.  As our relationship travels through time, she has told me more and more, which at times contradicts earlier comments she has made, ie, her count for dating married men has grown to four from the first stated one.  Recently she showed me over a hundred pictures of her performing sex acts with men, in her previous relationships.  I am having some troubles coming to grips with all this and the fact she continues to push for details about my past expoits, which I am uncomfortable sharing.  I guess I don't want her to feel the doubt I am beginning to feel about this relationship and the direction it could take.  I do realize that neither of us were without previous partners in our lives before we met, however, I do not need to know all the details to compare myself to.

 

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Speak up and communicate to her what you like and don’t like, want and don’t want. Now is the time to do it and see what happens. The deeper you get into the relationship, and the longer it lasts, the more painful and difficult it can be to deal with such issues, if it turns out you cannot reconcile your differences. If you can reconcile your differences on this, then the sooner you can get on with building the relationship. She is not likely to change her preferred sexual behaviors just because you don’t like them. So decide what you can accept and where you draw the line and communicate that to her clearly as soon as possible. Any delay is hazardous to your happiness.