My wife fantasies about having sex with another woman

My wife fantasies about having sex with another woman. When she watches a movie or talks about this she gets horny.

She loves to do this when we are having sex and tells me how it would all play out. Later she says that she probably would mot do it, but also comments that she does not want to die stupid and maybe someday would like to try it. I know that she would have to pick out the other woman. How would I go about this and let her believe that this is what she wants to do.

 ANSWER

It is a common fantasy to have sex with same sex partners, and of course homosexuality and bisexuality are normal human sexuality preferences, even if treated harshly by some segments of our communities.

We treat our relationship as a separate entity. There is Pala, Al and the relationship between Pala and Al. What this means in practical terms is that each of us refers decisions back to a consideration: “How would this action or decision affect our relationship?” Since we have made a conscious decision that our relationship is the most important thing in our lives, we simply do not do things which will threaten the relationship.

I suggest you use this decision making aid in your relationship. If the actions you are describing will strengthen your relationship, your love, and your commitment, then go for it; if such actions and decisions would threaten each other, or weaken the relationship, then you avoid such practices.

As for manipulating your wife into thinking or believing something was her own, but is really just a trick on your part to get what you want, I would never recommend doing that and have no suggestions to offer. Instead I suggest that you simply let her know that you approve of her fantasy and would like to see her actually do it and that you would be willing to assist in any way she would like you to. This would be honest, sincere and real on your part and not manipulation.

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