Emotional connections and self-healing through sex

Tantric sex has a very hippie-dippy feel to it, thanks to Sting and other people who talk about emotional connections and self-healing through sex. Is there anything you can say to convince readers that this is not the case?

ANSWER

The shabby perception many people have about Tantra sacred sexuality is mostly a reflection of their ignorance about what Tantra really is. Ignorance, of course, simply means not knowing. It does not in any way imply stupidity. If people had any clue what Tantra really was, and how profoundly it could improve their lives with better health, more pleasure, and total relationship happiness, not to mention the possibility of direct personal experience with the Divine, they would be reading books, and taking classes on the subject immediately. Unfortunately people have very immature ideas about sex and love and great relationships. They have never learned about healthy sex, spiritual sex, sacred sex, but rather imagine it must be like pornography, sleazy, selfish, all about performance, too much hard work, etc. They also project their own guilt and shame upon everything sexual without discriminating between quality and quantity. Tantric sex is about quality, not quantity. There is also an unfortunate association of Tantric sex with multiple sexual partners, group sex, massage which is essentially disguised prostitution and other practices that the majority of people are not comfortable with. These practices are called Tantra, but there are many Tantric teachers who are not engaged in these practices. We for example are a rather traditional heterosexual monogamous couple. Tantra is breaking out of this stereotype into the mainstream. We have had supreme court justices, medical directors of major hospitals, psychiatrists,  genome scientists, CEOs, clergymen, teachers, health practitioners of every tradition, students, etc. attend our Tantra weekends. It is beyond the early adaptor stage, and into the growth stage of public acceptance.

 

Al Link and Pala Copeland

4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra