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My lover and I are having difficulties with her orgasm

March 4, 2008 by Al Link  
Filed under Questions and Answers

 
My lover and I are having difficulties with her orgasm. Neither of us can bring her over the edge. Almost every time we are sexually intimate she says she gets so close then it starts to hurt.  She says the same thing happens when she pleasures herself. I’ve never put pressure on her to have one though I believe it is seriously hurting our relationship because she gets so upset that it makes the experience not enjoyable for both of us.  We’ve tried everything please help!
 
ANSWER
 
There can be any number of reasons for this painful experience. I’d suggest having a thorough check-up with a gynecologist to rule out any physical causes.

More likely however I think this may be an emotional, energetic issue. So I am including for you the directions to the Yoni massage. This is a very slow, very gentle healing massage of the Yoni (vagina). It may take several massages to help your partner fully relax and open up to complete sexual pleasure. Take your time and be loving and caring. Don’t try to get to orgasm with this, just give her your loving touch.

Yoni Massage

The Yoni massage, or female genital massage, brings healing and emotional opening. Your intention is not arousal, or orgasm, although these may well occur, but rather to help your lover become more sensitive, relaxed and connected to her yoni-her sacred temple. Much frustration, pain and trauma are held in the tissues of the vagina, loving massage can help discharge them. This process may bring up strong emotions-feelings of fear or anxiety and joyous outpourings of release. It may take several sessions before her yoni has healed so that she can fully enjoy the range of sexual pleasures it holds.

 
Instructions for a Yoni massage (yoni is the Tantric term for female genitals)
 
 
 
 

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