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I would not assume there is anything wrong with you because your man cannot ejaculate, but I don’t have enough information to rule that out. If you are relatively knowledgeable and skilled sexually, then the problem is most likely with your partner rather than with you.

Performance Anxiety

When people desire to be good lovers, they may approach lovemaking as a goal. A goal requires a performance to achieve the goal. In lovemaking, the goal is typically to get to orgasm, and for many couples the goal is to get to orgasm at the same instant. Unfortunately, this orientation often results in various symptoms of sexual dysfunction for both lovers. Some of the problems associated with performance anxiety for men include erectile dysfunction (failure to get or maintain an erection), pre-mature ejaculation, or not being able to ejaculate when they want to or not being able to ejaculate at all. For women the main dysfunction is an inability to have orgasms.

With sacred sexuality, there is no goal, but there is a purpose, and that purpose is union—union of the lovers and union with the Divine.

Replacing the goal orientation we suggest the pleasure orientation. Being in the moment, breath by breath, kiss by kiss, touch by touch, with no need or urgency to get to the next step. Ironically, when you drop the goal of getting to orgasm and just focus on giving and receiving pleasure in the moment, you will both have more orgasms!

4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra

Al Link and Pala Copeland