What is a yoni massage?

ANSWER:

Instructions for a yoni massage (yoni is the Tantric term for female genitals).

• Your lover lies on her back, a towel-covered pillow under her hips.

• Her legs are apart, knees slightly bent.

• Sit between her legs.

• Look into each other’s eyes and breathe slowly and deeply together.

• Gently massage her legs, belly and torso, advancing without haste to her inner thighs and pelvis.

• When she is relaxed move to her yoni, and, asking permission to honor this most sacred spot, pour a good quality water-based lubricant on her mound and begin to massage it slowly.

• “Slowly” is a key point for this entire massage.

• Gently squeezing each outer lip between thumb and forefinger, stroke up and down.

• Ask her to tell you if she wants more pressure or speed or softness.

• Repeat the stroking, squeezing motion on her inner lips.

• Move to her clitoris, circling, squeezing, and gently pulling.

• When you feel she is ready, ask permission to enter her enchanted garden and gently insert your finger—some women like two fingers.

• Crook your finger in a “come hither” motion and press it against the walls just inside the entrance of her vaginal canal.

• Explore all around this wonderful opening, fraction of an inch by fraction of an inch.

• If you encounter spots that are painful or tight stop movement but continue to press your finger there.

• Breathe together. You may notice tingling or heat as the tension releases.

• Move a little deeper into her honey pot and again press all around.

• This is the area of the g-spot, which can be extremely sensitive—its spongy tissue is a storehouse of sexual frustration and pain—so move respectfully.

• Some women feel a burning or a desire to urinate when the g-spot is awakening, continue to apply pressure and allow the sensation to pass.

• Move deeper still, straightening your finger and pressing along the sides as you go farther back toward the cervix.

• Wherever she feels trauma or pain stop movement, press the spot firmly, breathe deeply, until there is a release.

• If your lover would like you to, as you continue your internal massage begin to stimulate her clitoris with your other hand awakening her to a state of high arousal.

• She may experience orgasm—clitorally or vaginally or in combination.

• When she feels she has had enough, slowly take your hands away.

• Complete your massage by gently holding her in your loving arms.

4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra

Al Link and Pala Copeland