Heartbreak as Teacher – Heart Freedom (Part 8 of 8 )
November 15, 2007 by Al Link
Filed under Relationship Happiness
Change From “People fall in love and live happily ever after—their hearts once opened stay that way.”
Change To “We can create love for the rest of our lives, but we must re-open our hearts every time they close. We must feed our relationship by spending lovers’ time together. We must not take each other for granted.”
Transform “If you love me, you should know what I want.”
Into “Love requires a transparency of desire—I dare to risk making myself vulnerable by asking my lover for what I need and want.”
Alter “If you love me unconditionally, you’ll accept everything I do.”
Into “I can separate loving my partner from blindly accepting hurtful behaviors.”
Let go of “I’ll be saved and taken care of; our relationship is a remedy for my weakness, a deliverance from neediness, an escape from powerlessness.”
Keep “A relationship requires courage and daring. It is a supreme achievement, a heroic journey, a challenge that I can rise to, that can bring out the best in me.”
Excerpted from our new book Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms of Body, Mind, Heart and Soul, by Al Link and Pala Copeland, Llewellyn, 2007
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Check also at Amazon.com, Still Here: Embracing Aging, Changing, and Dying (Paperback) by Ram Dass
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