What should I do before my marriage

I have been masturbating for around 7 years now. I am 22. I fear whether I will have any trouble in sex (penis may not get full erection) after my marriage. I want to get clear on whether this will lead to some problem or nothing is wrong in doing this. If it is a health issue then tell me what I should do to get cured out of the effects of masturbation. What should I do before my marriage.

ANSWER

There is such a thing as addiction to masturbation; in fact it is relatively common and very serious, particularly for men who are in a sexual relationship with a woman. The tendency is for the male to continue masturbating, usually secretly, and if he does this frequently and repeatedly ending the masturbation with ejaculation, he will be in a continuous state of sexual energy exhaustion.

Depending upon his age and health status, he will also tend to be physically tired, and almost certainly he will experience a dramatic loss of libido for his female sexual partner (of course the same would be true for gay males with male sexual partners). Frequent ejaculations, e.g., daily, will keep even a younger healthy male weakened physically, and will significantly diminish his desire for lovemaking with a partner.

Furthermore, male masturbation tends to be fast and furious, which means training to come fast, which obviously is not desirable once you are in a lovemaking situation with another lover. It is possible for a male to use masturbation as a tool to help him learn ejaculation mastery, but this is rare, though highly recommended. This recommended type of masturbation is very slow, prolonged, and includes the male paying very careful attention to his sexual arousal as it builds toward climax, then as he gets close to coming, backing off and stopping the stimulation until the urgency to ejaculate recedes. In this way males can use masturbation as a way to delay and master the ejaculation response. Typically this ejaculation mastery practice of masturbation, includes (frequently, but not necessarily always), ending the masturbation without any ejaculation at all. This additional practice enables the male to learn how to carry a very high charge of sexual energy life force while remaining completely relaxed throughout the physical body, as well in the emotions.

While masturbation can be a wonderful source of pleasure, and can be considered a normal part of a healthy male sexuality, you will know if it is a problem, and if you therefore would be advised to reduce the frequency, or stop masturbation completely. This course is recommended only if masturbation is a problem interfering with your lovemaking with a partner.

If your choice is to reduce or eliminate masturbation, you will want something positive and good to replace your pleasure formerly taken from masturbation. Of course this will be sex with a lover, but beyond that I suggest you undertake to learn ejaculation mastery.

Experiment with delaying ejaculation by learning how to circulate the hot sexual energy up through the body, away from the prostate. As this hot sexual energy rises through the body, all the higher chakra centers (centers of spiritual energy) open and men can experience ecstatic states of sexual pleasure throughout the body (not just in the genitals) and also a profound awakening and expansion of spiritual consciousness.  If done successfully, accumulating and moving the hot sexual energy in this way results in your being able to have orgasms without ejaculation. This energy, if not spent in ejaculation, but rather circulated up through the body, then becomes available for other purposes, e.g. offering a serious competitive advantage is arts, sports, business, school, problem solving, decision making, leadership, physical healing, etc.

Use PC squeezing to move the sexual energy. Squeeze the muscles in the genital area as if you were stopping the flow of urine mid-stream. Hold the squeeze for approximately  5-8 seconds, then relax. Repeat approximately 100 times per day, over the entire day, not all at once. As long as you move the hot sexual energy away from the prostate as fast as it builds during lovemaking, then you will not experience any prostate discomfort. If the prostate gets sore, it only means that it is time to let off the “pressure” with the squirt of ejaculation.

Here are a couple of articles we have written with instructions on learning ejaculation mastery.

F ree Articles by Al Link and Pala Copeland

We also offer an excellent eBook with detailed expanded instructions for learning ejaculation mastery

Voluntary Ejaculation & Male Multiple Orgasm

All good things,

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