Tantra and Kama Sutra Sex Positions-More Exotic Practices-”Loving Body Discovery Part 2″

"Loving Body Discovery " Part 2

In the “loving body discovery” exercise, we usually suggest that you do NOT proceed on to intercourse and orgasm. In this way, you can experience what it is like to make love without trying to get anywhere, without having the possibly frustrating experience of wanting an orgasm but not getting one. Ironically, when they remove orgasm as a goal, many lovers report having lots more orgasms. Here surrender and letting go are much more useful—control does not help at all. Remember, control is the enemy of ecstasy.

A common complaint we hear from women, is that their male lovers go almost immediately for the hot spots—breasts and genitals. We refer to this as the bulls-eye syndrome. The loving body discovery is an excellent antidote to the bulls-eye syndrome because you don’t approach the breasts and genitals until well into the exercise.

Ladies, bear in mind that men are animals—they can be trained easily! Remember Pavlov’s dogs? The dogs learned to salivate at the sound of the bell once they associated the bell with food as a conditioned response. Men go quickly for the genitals because they get a great big response there. If you want your man to stay at another spot on your beautiful body for a long time and to go to that spot early in your lovemaking, give him a big response when he is there. For example, move your body and make appreciative sounds when he is nibbling on your neck, whispering in your ears, or sucking your lovely toes.

When finally you do reach the hot spots, remember that you are exploring with all of your senses. You are not trying to arouse your partner sexually (although this may well happen). You are not building with the idea of going on to intercourse. You are not trying to make your lover come. You are not trying to get to orgasm. The loving body discovery mercifully lets both of you off the “performance hook”.

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